時差N小時:小公主擾亂婚姻生活

Dear Annie: My wife of 50 years and I are at animpasse. A year ago, her 30-year-old daughter,Carol, moved in with us and brought her dogs along.Carol has a good job, but contributes nothing andhas absolutely no responsibilities. Her mother and Ido her laundry and cook her meals, feed and walkthe dogs, and clean up the fur and poop. Carol goesto work and hangs out with her friends. She is livingthe good life while we do everything for her.Shouldn't adult children contribute both financiallyand by helping out? I have talked this over with mywife, but she will not change her stance. I am seriously thinking of leaving her. Maybe I couldfind someone willing to take responsibility for me so I can live the good life, too. - Larry IsLosing

親愛的安妮： 我的妻子50歲了。最近我和她鬧僵了。一年前，她30歲的女兒卡羅爾搬來和我們一起住，還帶來了她養(yǎng)的的狗?？_爾雖然有一份好工作，但是對這個家卻難言盡責(zé)。我和她的母親給她洗衣、做飯、養(yǎng)狗、遛狗、給狗洗澡、清理狗糞。卡羅爾上班、和朋友出去玩。她過得很滋潤，但我們要為她打理一切。 成年子女不該給予父母財力支持和其它幫助嗎?我與我的妻子談過這事，但她沒有改變立場。我正在很認(rèn)真地考慮，是不是應(yīng)該離開她。也許我能找到愿意為我承擔(dān)責(zé)任的另一半，這樣我也可以享受一下生活。——困惑的拉里

Dear Larry: A loving parent does not encourage an adult child to live like a little princess athome. Your wife is being selfish. If she cared more for Carol's welfare than her own emotionalneeds, she'd tell her daughter to find her own place. At the very least, Carol should be payingrent and taking care of her dogs, meals and laundry. Explain this to your wife, and tell her howclose you are to walking out.

親愛的拉里： 慈愛的父母不應(yīng)鼓勵成年子女在家里像個小公主一樣。你的妻子其實是很自私的。如果她真地關(guān)心卡羅爾的幸福和情感需要，她應(yīng)告訴她的女兒獨立生活。最起碼，卡羅爾應(yīng)自己支付房租、自己照顧狗、自己做飯、自己洗衣。把這些道理解釋給你的妻子，并告訴她，若她做不到，你就會離開她。