Quora精選：一個(gè)人吃飯會(huì)難過(guò)嗎？

Why do I feel sad when I see people eating alone?為什么我看到有人單獨(dú)吃飯的時(shí)候會(huì)覺(jué)得難過(guò)？

 

獲得916好評(píng)的答案@John Burgess

Because you're projecting how you would feel if eating alone... sad.因?yàn)槟阍谠O(shè)想如果你一個(gè)人吃飯會(huì)有什么感覺(jué)······就是難過(guò)。Your feeling, however, may not be at all in accord with what the lone diner is feeling. Introverts in particular are quite happy eating by themselves. In fact, certain kinds of company can spoil the whole occasion.但是，你的感覺(jué)可能與那位獨(dú)食者的感覺(jué)完全不一樣。尤其是性格內(nèi)向的人，很喜歡一個(gè)人吃飯。實(shí)際上，某些同伴們反而會(huì)破壞整個(gè)氛圍。

 

獲得15好評(píng)的答案@Paul Zink

Most likely because you view dining as a social activity. That's fine, but for many — including me — it's an experience whose value lies primarily in the enjoyment of quality food, good service and the gracious ambiance of a good restaurant. I've dined alone in fine restaurants for decades with great satisfaction and no need or desire for company, which can often be a distraction from leisurely enjoyment of the dining experience.大概是因?yàn)槟惆殉燥埧醋魇且环N社交活動(dòng)。這沒(méi)什么，但是對(duì)很多人來(lái)說(shuō)（包括我），吃飯這種經(jīng)歷的價(jià)值主要是在于享受美味的食物、優(yōu)質(zhì)的服務(wù)以及優(yōu)質(zhì)餐廳里的美好氛圍。幾十年來(lái)我一直在一家很棒的餐館一個(gè)人吃飯，對(duì)此非常滿意，不需要、也不希望有人陪我，這只會(huì)讓我從愉快的用餐享受中分心。

 

獲得9好評(píng)的答案@John Stockwell

You are telling yourself a story as to why the person is eating alone. You are mind reading, or attempting to guess the situation of a person you know nothing about.你給自己講了個(gè)那人為什么單獨(dú)吃飯的故事，你在猜測(cè)他的心理，或者嘗試去猜測(cè)那個(gè)人的處境，盡管你對(duì)他一無(wú)所知。That person might just want to have a bit of peace and quiet while eating. They need not be the social outcasts that you think they are.那個(gè)人也許想在吃飯的時(shí)候享受片刻安寧，他們并不是你以為的那種社交的棄兒。Or perhaps it is you who have the problem? Maybe you are afraid to be alone? Maybe you grew up with a lot of siblings and have been surrounded with family members and were taught that you have to have people around you all of the time? Maybe you are afraid of what you will hear in your mind, when the sounds of the world shut off, and you are left with only yourself for company?或者有可能是你自己有這種問(wèn)題？也許你很害怕獨(dú)處？也許你有很多兄弟姐妹一起長(zhǎng)大，一直以來(lái)都和家人在一起，也被教育說(shuō)你應(yīng)該一直和別人在一起？也許你害怕聽(tīng)到和整個(gè)世界隔絕開(kāi)來(lái)并且只有自己一個(gè)人時(shí)你內(nèi)心的聲音？

 

(來(lái)源:滬江)