身邊的“有毒朋友”

根據(jù)美國研究人員的最新發(fā)現(xiàn)，如果一個(gè)人感到疲憊、崩潰或缺乏自信，不只是與個(gè)人有關(guān)，還可能與你的友誼有關(guān)。人的朋友大致可分這三種：良友、錚友、有毒朋友。有毒朋友是指那些用語言或行為給人帶來困擾，讓人感到精疲力盡、灰心喪氣，最終破壞自己的心情和生活的朋友。

It can be challenging to recognize the damage caused by a toxic friendship, especially if you've known and cared about the person for a long time. But if you've resolved to be happier and healthier in the new year, taking stock of your relationships is a good place to start.

認(rèn)清有毒朋友的危害非常難辦到，特別是如果你已經(jīng)認(rèn)識(shí)他/她很久，關(guān)系也不錯(cuò)的時(shí)候。但如果你下決心想在新的一年中更快樂、更健康，清理一下你的朋友關(guān)系是個(gè)不錯(cuò)的開始。

In fact, 84 percent of women — and 75 percent of men — said they'd had a toxic friend at some point, with 1 in 3 survey takers fessing up to a toxic BFF.

事實(shí)上，84%的女性和75%的男性表示自己曾經(jīng)有過有毒朋友，三分之一的受訪者坦承曾經(jīng)有過關(guān)系非常好的有毒朋友。

In a harmful relationship, you may feel the friend is insulting, critical, petty or selfish. A friend may ask for honest advice and then become angry when you deliver it, or do the opposite of what you suggest. A toxic friend may persist in giving unsolicited advice, or talk only about their own life and problems without considering your needs and feelings. Sometimes a friend may burden you with his or her own problems, whether it's job, money, or relationship woes -- but not offer any support in return.

在一段有害的朋友關(guān)系中，你可能會(huì)覺得這位朋友侮辱人、愛挑剔、小氣或自私。一位有毒朋友可能會(huì)向你征求誠實(shí)的建議，但當(dāng)你說出后他/她又很生氣，或者干脆反著來;可能堅(jiān)持未經(jīng)請(qǐng)求就提出建議，或者只談?wù)撟约旱纳詈蛦栴}，而不考慮你的需要和感受;有時(shí)還會(huì)因自己的問題增加你的負(fù)擔(dān)，不管是工作、金錢還是個(gè)人關(guān)系的煩惱。但他們卻從不給你提供任何支持。