EQ是把雙刃劍 高情商也有陰暗面？

導(dǎo)讀：如同其他能力一樣，情商也是一把雙刃劍，既能作為成功的墊腳石，又能成為危害他人和社會(huì)的利器。下面就和我們一同來揭開高情商的陰暗面。

Emotional intelligence, or EQ, is the ability to read and understand emotions in ourselves and others. It is said that emotional intelligence accounts for 80 percent of one’s success.

情商也稱EQ，是一種讀懂自身和他人情緒的能力。據(jù)說一個(gè)人的成功80%取決于情商的高低。

That’s almost certainly an exaggeration. But ever since the 1995 publication of US psychologist and science writer Daniel Goleman’s best-seller, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, EQ has been seen by leaders and educators as the solution to many social problems. In some Western countries such as the US, emotional intelligence is now taught widely in secondary, business and medical schools.

這一說法雖然略顯夸張。但是自從1995年美國(guó)心理學(xué)家兼科學(xué)作家丹尼爾•戈?duì)柭臅充N書《情商:它為什么比智商更重要》出版以來，很多領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者和教育家都將情商視為解決諸多社會(huì)問題的關(guān)鍵。如今，在美國(guó)等西方國(guó)家，在中學(xué)、商學(xué)院和醫(yī)學(xué)院中情商教學(xué)隨處可見。

Anti-social behavior

反社會(huì)行為

EQ is important. But our enthusiasm for it has obscured a dark side, says a recent article in The Atlantic.

美國(guó)《大西洋月刊》近日刊登文章稱，情商固然重要，但是人們的趨之若鶩卻掩蓋了它的黑暗面。

Weapon of mass emotion

操縱大眾情緒的武器

Recent research and studies show that as people improve their emotional skills, they become better at manipulating others. When someone knows what others are feeling, they can tug at their heartstrings and motivate them to act against their own best interests.

最新研究表明，隨著人們情商能力的提高，他們會(huì)更擅長(zhǎng)操縱他人。當(dāng)一個(gè)人能了解別人的感受時(shí)，他就可以撩動(dòng)他們的心弦，促使他們做出違背自身最大利益的行為。

Does this remind you of those “managers” at pyramid scheme companies? Hundreds of thousands of otherwise cautious and rational people have been brainwashed by their impassioned speeches and become bankrupt as a result.

這是否會(huì)令你聯(lián)想到那些非法傳銷公司的“經(jīng)理”們?無數(shù)處事理智而謹(jǐn)慎的人被他們激情澎湃的演講洗腦，最后卻落得個(gè)傾家蕩產(chǎn)的下場(chǎng)。

Social scientists have begun to document this dark side of emotional intelligence. A study by the University of Cambridge found that when a leader gave an inspiring speech filled with emotion, the audience was less likely to scrutinize the message and remembered less of the content.

社會(huì)科學(xué)家已經(jīng)開始研究情商的黑暗面。劍橋大學(xué)一項(xiàng)研究發(fā)現(xiàn)，當(dāng)一名領(lǐng)導(dǎo)人充滿激情地演講時(shí)，聽眾不會(huì)太注意其傳達(dá)的信息，并且記住的內(nèi)容也很少。

Researchers call this the “awestruck effect”, but it may just as easily be described as the dumbstruck effect, says The Atlantic article. Leaders who master emotions can rob us of our capacity to reason. If they have self-serving motives, or their values are out of step with our own, emotional intelligence becomes a weapon of manipulation and the results can be devastating.

據(jù)《大西洋月刊》報(bào)道，研究人員將其稱為“敬畏效應(yīng)”，但它也很容易被描述成“驚嚇效應(yīng)”。善于掌控情緒的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者會(huì)讓我們喪失辨別是非的能力。當(dāng)他們產(chǎn)生謀私利的動(dòng)機(jī)，或者他們的價(jià)值觀與我們的不合拍時(shí)，情商就會(huì)變成操控他人情緒的武器，其后果不堪設(shè)想。

Hidden agenda

隱藏的動(dòng)機(jī)

This is consistent with another recent study from Kyoto University. According to The Huffington Post, the study shows that “people with high interpersonal EQ influence others’ emotions based on their own goals”.

該觀點(diǎn)與日本京都大學(xué)的一項(xiàng)研究成果不謀而合。據(jù)《赫芬頓郵報(bào)》報(bào)道，該研究表明：“高情商者會(huì)根據(jù)自己的目標(biāo)去干擾他人情緒”。

A research team led by University College London professor Martin Kilduff shed more light on this dark side of emotional intelligence. According to them, emotional intelligence helps people disguise one set of emotions while expressing another for personal gain. Emotionally intelligent people “intentionally shape their emotions to fabricate favorable impressions of themselves”, Kilduff’s team writes in the journal Research in Organizational Behavior. “The strategic disguise of one’s own emotions and the manipulation of others’ emotions for strategic ends are behaviors evident not only on Shakespeare’s stage but also in the offices and corridors where power and influence are traded.”

倫敦大學(xué)學(xué)院的馬丁•吉爾達(dá)夫教授帶領(lǐng)一支研究小組揭開了情商的黑暗面。該小組稱，人們?yōu)榱酥\取私利，會(huì)掩飾情緒，當(dāng)面一套背后一套。情商高的人“會(huì)故意給人留下對(duì)自己有利的印象”。吉爾達(dá)夫率領(lǐng)的研究小組在《組織行為研究》期刊中寫道：“采取策略來偽裝個(gè)人情緒，同時(shí)為了達(dá)到戰(zhàn)略目的而操控他人情緒，這些行為不僅出現(xiàn)在莎翁的戲劇中，在交易權(quán)力和影響力的場(chǎng)所也十分常見。”

It seems that to better understand the dark side of EQ, we need look no further than Shakespeare’s Macbeth or its modern adaption on TV: House of Cards.

看來，要想更好地了解情商的黑暗面，我們只需看看莎翁名著《麥克白》或者它的現(xiàn)代電視劇版——《紙牌屋》就夠了。