是工作讓你單身的嗎？

2. "My boss knows I'm single and singles me out."

 　　上司因為知道我單身給了我很多工作任務，搞得我一直單身。

　　Singles are often expected to work late, travel for business, and take on last minute assignments because they don't have "family commitments." For example, Pennsylvania Governor Ed Rendell stated last year that the choice of Janet Napolitano as Homeland Security Secretary was an excellentone because she has "no family and no life" and could devote 19-20 hours a day to the job.

　　上司通常會因為單身的員工沒有家庭負擔，而期望他們工作到更晚、出差、承擔最后一分鐘的任務。比如，賓夕法尼亞州的州長Ed Rendell聲稱，Janet Napolitano作為國家安全部長是一個非常明智的選擇，因為她沒有家庭生活，每天可以工作19-20小時。

　　Solution: Value your dating commitments. If your boss asks you to work late, you don't always have to say "yes." Saying that you already have plans is an acceptableexcuse. It's great to be able to put in the hours to get ahead at work, but make sure that you're not allowing work to get in the way of your other life goals.

　　解決之道：重視約會承諾。如果上司叫你加班，你不必每次都答應。告訴上司你已經有安排了，這個是很正當的拒絕理由。在工作中投入更多的時間讓自己遙遙領先固然好，但是要確保你沒有讓工作擋住了你實現生活目標的道路。