英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第384期 The importance of silence
似乎，大多數(shù)時(shí)候，我們?nèi)祟愖畲蟮膯?wèn)題，就是還沒(méi)想清楚，就把話說(shuō)出口。好像我們每個(gè)人都有這個(gè)問(wèn)題，通常來(lái)說(shuō)，我們這樣做，有很多原因。我們想讓別人知道我們的價(jià)值。
We try to make ourselves look big, try to talk others down, and sometimes gain some respect aggressively, some godlike reverence to ourselves.
我們想讓自己看起來(lái)很棒，我們想說(shuō)服別人，我們想強(qiáng)迫別人尊重我們、崇拜我們。
We're ready to say everything that can be said to have a stand on a position that is of worth, and make people see us as important too. And in the process, we say more than we actually should.
只要有機(jī)會(huì)說(shuō)話，我們就會(huì)說(shuō)話，表明自己的正確態(tài)度，讓別人覺(jué)得我們很重要。在這個(gè)過(guò)程中，我們說(shuō)得太多了。
Have you ever thought of the importance of silence? Have you ever thought of the reason why you have been given two lips and a brain to think? The main reason is for you to know by reasoning the right time to talk and the right time not to, to be able to envisage when our words are needed to be heard, and when we are to be silent, even when the situation and circumstances around us seemingly want us to speak out.
你有沒(méi)有想過(guò)沉默的重要性？你有沒(méi)有想過(guò)，為什么你有兩片嘴唇，和一個(gè)用來(lái)思考的大腦？因?yàn)?，你需要知道，什么時(shí)候該說(shuō)話，什么時(shí)候不該說(shuō)話，認(rèn)真看待我們說(shuō)的話，明白什么時(shí)候該說(shuō)話，什么時(shí)候該保持沉默，就算眼前的情況需要你說(shuō)話，你也要保持沉默。
Yes, life can be a bit complicated and demanding. It can throw you off balance and give you no reason to be logical. However, since you have no control over many situations, you do have control over your own life. Look at yourself more than you look and meditate on others. Saying too much is providing an arsenal for you to get hurt with your words. being mysterious, on the other hand, makes people go the extra mile to be your friend. You don't want to give them any ammunition to attack. Be still in your conversations and thoughts, and keep the people around you guessing, keep them wondering and looking over their shoulder for you.
沒(méi)錯(cuò)，生活很復(fù)雜，很讓人費(fèi)心。它能讓你失去平衡，讓你失去理智，沒(méi)有邏輯。然而，雖然你無(wú)法控制很多情況，但是你能把握好自己的生活。多反省自己，不要總盯著別人看，想象別人的生活。說(shuō)得太多，就會(huì)讓你被自己所說(shuō)的話傷害。但是，如果你保持沉默，就可以讓別人主動(dòng)接近你，與你交朋友。你肯定不想讓他們擁有傷害你的武器，所以，無(wú)論是跟別人說(shuō)話時(shí)，還是獨(dú)自思考時(shí)，都要穩(wěn)定自己的心緒，讓你周圍的人對(duì)你感到好奇，讓他們想去了解你，主動(dòng)跟你接觸。
They will yell at you. you do nothing. You say nothing. They will come calling on you when you do not want. Stay calm. Say nothing. You aren't doing them a favor. You're doing yourself a favor. Hearing nothing from you will give them much to think about when they want to approach you. You become that guy or that girl that makes them feel unsure of themselves. Your silence disrupts their confidence. It breaks their flow of thought regarding you. They just don't know how to get to you anymore. You don't give them any means or a reason to.
他們會(huì)朝你叫喊，你無(wú)動(dòng)于衷，你保持沉默。就算你不想，他們也會(huì)來(lái)招惹你。你要保持冷靜，保持沉默。你這樣做，不是為了他們，而是為了你自己。如果他們得不到你的回應(yīng)，在想接近你的時(shí)候，他們就會(huì)自己去思考。你會(huì)讓他們感到不確定，你的沉默會(huì)擾亂他們的自信，讓他們不再一直對(duì)你進(jìn)行猜測(cè)。他們根本不知道怎樣才能了解你，你完全不給他們?nèi)魏螜C(jī)會(huì)。
It's like a man who goes to a party with his friends and doesn't dance. No one is going to laugh at his dance moves. Why? Because he hasn't danced. They will keep coming up with ways to define you just because you never provided them any. Instead of you trying to give reasons as to why you're better and why they're wrong, why not just keep quiet and steadily work toward your dream, bearing in mind that you have a goal better than the circumstances around you. We've heard the popular expression; silence is the best response to a fool. The people around you do not necessarily need to be proven as fools, because the whole essence of going down your particular path is for your own sake.
一個(gè)人和朋友們一起參加派對(duì)，他不跳舞，就沒(méi)人會(huì)嘲笑他的舞步。為什么？因?yàn)樗揪蜎](méi)跳舞。別人一直議論你，是因?yàn)槟憬o了他們這樣的機(jī)會(huì)。與其去證明自己比他們優(yōu)秀，證明他們是錯(cuò)的，還不如保持沉默，持續(xù)不斷地為你的夢(mèng)想努力。記住，你的目標(biāo)很遠(yuǎn)大，周圍這些人不配讓你分心。我們都聽(tīng)過(guò)一句很有名的話，沉默，是對(duì)傻子最好的回應(yīng)。你也沒(méi)必要證明自己周圍的人都是傻子，因?yàn)?，走自己的路，是為了自己，跟他們沒(méi)關(guān)系。
Why don't you keep them confused by your silence? Keep them entirely thinking about you while you stay focused on your goals? Nobody is you, and that's what makes the difference. The moment you start bearing in mind nobody knows anything about you is the moment you begin to understand that talking to convince people about who you are doesn't really work. You don't need to tell them who you are. Let them find out. Don't give them exactly what they need to say about you. Let them play the guessing game. You do not necessarily need to respond to anything they say.
保持沉默，讓他們感到困惑吧，何樂(lè)不為呢？讓他們一直對(duì)你感到好奇，與此同時(shí)，你卻在專注于實(shí)現(xiàn)自己的夢(mèng)想。你是最獨(dú)特的，這非常重要。只要你記住，沒(méi)有人真正了解你，那么你就會(huì)明白，想辦法說(shuō)服別人，是沒(méi)有用的。你不需要告訴他們，你是誰(shuí)。讓他們自己發(fā)現(xiàn)，你是誰(shuí)。不要讓他們有機(jī)會(huì)談?wù)撃?，讓他們自己去猜吧。無(wú)論他們說(shuō)了什么，你都沒(méi)必要做出回應(yīng)。
If they intend to draw out some negative action from you, just leave them in silence and let your actions do the talking. Smile on and confuse them with your choice of saying nothing. All you're required to do is listen. Listen and let them seek your voice. Let them find it hard to figure you out. What's more fun and giving people virtually nothing revealing about you, while you live your life to the fullest?
如果他們想做什么傷害你的事，你也不要管他們，用你的行動(dòng)證明一切。保持微笑，保持沉默，這會(huì)讓他們摸不著頭腦。你要做的，就是仔細(xì)聆聽(tīng)。仔細(xì)聆聽(tīng)，讓他們找尋你的聲音，讓他們覺(jué)得你是個(gè)捉摸不透的人。不要給別人任何了解你的機(jī)會(huì)，活出你自己的精彩，這就是最有趣的事情。
