學(xué)生的情況,我見得多了。他們上了大學(xué),但他們的心態(tài)不健康。如果發(fā)現(xiàn)事情不順利,或者對考試結(jié)果感到失望,或者覺得教授沒有認(rèn)真上課,或者一直睡懶覺、曠課,他們就會找借口。
And when you do that, you take all the power you have in your life, and you give it away. You just throw it all away, because you're blaming other people. By blaming your professors, or your university, or your friends or family or your circumstances, you give your power away to them, but you need to embrace it.
如果你總是找借口,其實(shí)就是在放棄自己的主動權(quán),把決定權(quán)交給別人。因?yàn)槟憧傇诒г箘e人,所以其實(shí)你拋棄了自己的主動權(quán)。如果你總是發(fā)牢騷,埋怨老師,埋怨學(xué)校,埋怨朋友,埋怨家人,埋怨現(xiàn)狀,那么你就把主動權(quán)交給了他們。然而,你應(yīng)該掌握自己的主動權(quán)。
Think about the lies that you tell yourself to rationalize being lazy. When you take the easy road and you leave discipline behind, when you say to yourself, I'll start studying for my exam tomorrow, and then tomorrow comes and you say, I'll start studying for my exam tomorrow. And the exam deadline is getting closer and closer, and a few days before the exam you realize you haven't started studying yet. And the panic sets in and the sleepless nights begin. It's too late.
想一下,你曾經(jīng)說了多少謊言,自欺欺人,掩飾自己的懶惰。你選擇安逸,放棄自律。你對自己說,明天我就要開始復(fù)習(xí)考試,第二天又繼續(xù)說,我明天我就要開始復(fù)習(xí)考試。考試一天天逼近,開考前幾天,你終于意識到,自己完全還沒開始復(fù)習(xí)。你會感到恐慌,睡覺都睡不安穩(wěn)。但是,一切都已經(jīng)太遲了。
It's the day of the exam you sit at your desk. You open the exam paper for the first time and you experience that all-too-common sinking feeling when you realize you don't know the answer to any of the questions. You know what I'm talking about. We've all been there. It's the excuses and the lack of discipline that are taking you down paths that you shouldn't be going.
考試當(dāng)天,你坐在桌子旁,第一次打開試卷,發(fā)現(xiàn)自己不知道怎么解答,接著感到心一沉,這種感覺非常普遍。你很清楚我在說什么,因?yàn)槲覀兌冀?jīng)歷過這樣的情況。找借口,不自律,這讓你誤入歧途。
There are a million reasons why you're disappointed, but the reasons are not important. What is important is what you do about it. What is important is how you're going to spin it so that you take advantage of the situation. Failed an exam? Good. Study two hours a day extra from now on. Had an argument with a friend? Good. You just had a crucial lesson in social science. Try to stay more calm next time. Keep waking up late and getting to class late? Good. Go to sleep earlier and wake up earlier tomorrow. Whatever your problems are, they are fixable. You just have to persevere.
也許有千百種事情讓你沮喪,然而它們并不重要,重要的是你如何應(yīng)對,重要的是你怎么扭轉(zhuǎn)局勢,怎么利用現(xiàn)有條件??荚囀×??沒事,從今天開始,每天加量學(xué)習(xí)兩小時。和朋友吵架了?沒事,你得到了社交中很寶貴的教訓(xùn),下次記得要更加冷靜??偸撬瘧杏X、上課遲到?沒事,早點(diǎn)睡,明天早點(diǎn)起。無論你有什么問題,都可以解決,關(guān)鍵是你要能堅持。
And as you work at it brick by brick, you might start out awfully inefficient and incompetent at studying. But being willing to put in the work, and grind it out, and becoming someone who people actually look up to and admire, at that moment in your life, you'll realize it was worth it. All the pain, the suffering, the late-night study grinds. It was all worth it.
你付出點(diǎn)點(diǎn)滴滴的努力,也許一開始的時候你學(xué)得不太好,但是,只要你愿意付出,愿意用功,最后人們都會佩服你,欣賞你。到那時,你就會知道,一切都是值得的。曾經(jīng)的痛苦,磨煉,無數(shù)個努力學(xué)習(xí)的不眠之夜,都是值得的。