對比傷害孩子 Comparing Hurts Children

It is natural for every parents to be proud of their excellent children. Especially when many parents sit together, the comparison between kids is inevitable. Foreign parents know how this hurts the children, while most Chinese parents don’t. The comparison of children should be stop.

每個父母都會很自然的為他們出色的孩子感到驕傲。特別是當很多家長坐在一起聊天時，孩子們之間的對比就變成是不可避免的。外國的父母知道這會傷害孩子，然而大多數中國父母卻渾然不知。孩子們之間的對比應該停止。

Take me for example. When I was very small, my mother sent me to learn dance class, because she hoped me could dance well. So when she communicated with other moms, she would ask me to dance in front of them. I felt so awkward, and just wanted to find a hole to dig in. These situation happened many time, until some day, I said to my mother how I felt about this and I did not like being compared. She realized the problem and stop doing it again.

以我為例。在我很小的時候，我媽媽送我去學習舞蹈課，她希望我能夠善于跳舞。所以當她和其他媽媽聊天的時候，她會叫我在她們面前跳舞。我覺得很尷尬，只想找個洞鉆進去。這樣的情況發(fā)生過很多次，直到有一天，我跟媽媽說出了我的感受，我不喜歡被比較。她才意識到這一問題，并且再也沒有叫我這樣做過。

Since my mother lets me go, I am so happy and live the way I am want. I no longer have pressure. Now I can do what I want and she understands me. Though I give up dancing, I do well in painting. My talent is painting and I have won many awards. This is the thing that my parents should be proud of.

自從我媽媽給了我自由，我就很開心，用自己的方式過自己想過的生活。我不再有壓力?，F在我可以做我想做的事，她也理解我。雖然我放棄了跳舞，但是我畫畫得很好。我的天賦是繪畫，我贏了許多獎項。這才是我父母感到驕傲的事。