時差N小時:孩童時期的目中無人 Defiant child age

Y:Y'know, I've always wondered what you were likeas a kid, Don . . . I bet you were a nice, sweet littleboy.

雅艾爾:我一直想知道你小時候,唐…我敢打賭,你那時候是個漂亮,可愛的小男生。

D:Actually, Yael, just the opposite.

唐:雅艾爾,實際上恰恰相反。

At least that's what I'm told.

至少別人是這樣告訴我的。

Evidently I could be pretty difficult as a toddler.

顯然那時候蹣跚學步的我要吃力很多。

Y:Really? But you're such a mild-mannered fellow.

雅艾爾:真的是這樣嗎?但你是這樣一個溫文爾雅的家伙。D:Maybe, but around the age of two orso I could be pretty defiant, throwing tantrums when I didn't get my way.

唐:也許吧,但大約兩歲時我可能很目中無人,如果不順我的氣兒就經(jīng)常大發(fā)脾氣。

Y:Well, I guess I'm not that surprised . . . after all, it's perfectly normal, healthy even, for littlekids to be defiant.

雅艾爾:嗯,我想并不會感到詫異…畢竟,小孩子目中無人完全正常,健康。

D:Normal, sure, but healthy?

唐:當然正常,但健康嗎?

Y:Yes. Child development experts have found that being defiant and doing things like refusingto listen and throwing fits is part of how kids learn to assert themselves and control theirenvironment.

雅艾爾:是的。兒童發(fā)展專家已經(jīng)發(fā)現(xiàn),目中無人,做事情喜歡拒絕傾聽及大發(fā)脾氣是孩子學會堅持自己及控制自我環(huán)境的其中一部分。

It's a normal part of growing up.

這是正常成長所必須經(jīng)歷的階段。

D:What about kids who don't throw tantrums and are nice and sweet? Are you suggesting thatthey're somehow not developing properly?

唐:如果孩子不發(fā)脾氣就會很好很乖嗎?你是在暗示他們發(fā)展不正常嗎?

Y:That sounds kinda far fetched . . .I mean, every kid is defiant at least sometimes.

雅艾爾:這聽起來有點不切實際。。。我的意思是,每個孩子都有叛逆期。

But, sure, some kids are much less defiant than others.

但是,當然,有些孩子比別人少得多。

And the research shows that those kids develop fine, too.

而且研究表明,那些孩子也成長的很好。

D:But I assume that either extreme--either a kid who's completely passive, or a kid who'soverly defiant--can signal a problem . . .

唐:但我假設(shè)2種極端,要么小孩子完全被動,要么過于目中無人，這能否成為問題…

Y:That's true.

雅艾爾:沒錯。

But my point is, I guess, that even though it can be exasperating and even maddening whenkids are defiant, they're not behaving that way just to be bad.

但我的觀點是,我想, 當孩子目中無人的時候即便令人惱火,甚至發(fā)狂,他們也沒有表現(xiàn)的就是壞的方面。

It's like they need to act that way to figure out how to get along in the world. I mean, it'sworked for you.

這就像他們需要來找出如何和世界相處的行為方式。我的意思是,它就是對你有用。

D:Thanks.

唐:好的，非常感謝。