時差N小時:如何跟大嘴巴的朋友打交道

Dear Annie: When I was in college, I was goodfriends with "Carrie." When Carrie met my boyfriend,she was rather intoxicated and said some hurtfulthings about him. Carrie went on and on about howshe couldn't believe I would date a frat boy, that Iwas better than that, etc.

親愛的安妮：大學(xué)時，我有個好朋友叫“凱利”。凱利見到我男朋友時喝醉了，然后把他說得一無是處。她滔滔不絕地講著，說她還是不敢相信我會跟一個聯(lián)誼會的男孩交往，我能找到更好的，等等。

Carrie apologized the next day. I married theboyfriend and still keep in touch with Carrie. But even after two years, I cannot shake what shesaid. I know her well enough to realize that while she was sorry, she meant every word. Carriehas asked to visit a couple of times, and I keep making excuses because it would beuncomfortable.

第二天凱利道歉了。我與男朋友結(jié)了婚，與凱利還保持著聯(lián)系。但即使兩年過后，我還是不能忘記她說過的話。我很了解她，她如果道歉，每一句都是認(rèn)真的。好幾次凱利想來拜訪我，我都找借口拒絕了，因為這讓我感覺不舒服。

I know her loose tongue was a result of the drinking and she did apologize, but I can't forgetthe incident. What should I say when she tells me she'd like to come and stay with us? —Confused Since College

我知道她嘴巴不嚴(yán)是因為喝醉的緣故，而且她的確道歉了，但我始終無法忘記那件事。她再提起想過來跟我們住一陣子時，我該怎么做呢?

Dear Confused: Even if Carrie meant those words at the time, it doesn't mean she still feelsthat way. Before inviting Carrie to visit, have a frank discussion. Tell her you are still botheredby those comments about your husband and, because you value the friendship so highly, wouldlike to clear the air. See what she says before checking her off your guest list.

親愛的小糊涂：即使凱利當(dāng)時是認(rèn)真的，也不代表她現(xiàn)在還那樣認(rèn)為。在邀請她之前，與她開誠布公地談一次話。告訴她你還在為當(dāng)年她的出言不遜而煩惱，因為你是如此珍視你們之間的友誼，所以想消除誤會?？纯此龝泻畏磻?yīng)，然后再決定是否將它從客人名單上劃掉。