Quaro精選：我媽嫌我丑，我該怎么辦？

My Mom Resents Me Because I'm Ugly. What Should I Do With My Life?我媽嫌我丑，我該怎么辦？I have zero self esteem because of this and I look at pretty girls and think why I wasn't born beautiful. My whole life she has told me I'm ugly and that she wished she had a beautiful child, I never had a dad around to tell me otherwise. She would tell me he left because he didn't want me.就因?yàn)檫@個(gè)，我完全沒(méi)有自信心。我常常看著漂亮的女孩子，然后想為什么我就沒(méi)有生得漂亮呢？我活這么久，我媽一直都說(shuō)我很丑，說(shuō)她希望自己能有個(gè)好看的孩子。我并沒(méi)有父親，所以也不能從父親那得到不同的答案。如果問(wèn)我媽，她會(huì)說(shuō)我爸不要我所以走了。

 

獲得2.5k好評(píng)的回答@Syed Rizvi：

I'd rather have a beautiful heart than a beautiful face. I’m really sorry you feel ugly but you have to realise everyone is beautiful in there own ways. Ignorant people won't look passed your face they are not worth your time. Intelligent people will see you for who you are . Your traits , , hobbies and opinions so focus on those aspects of life make sure you get good at them.我覺(jué)得心靈美比臉蛋美更重要，你覺(jué)得自己不美對(duì)此我很難過(guò)，但是每個(gè)人可以以自己的方式來(lái)表達(dá)美。那些以貌取人的人不值得你浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。聰明人會(huì)從你的特點(diǎn)、愛(ài)好以及見(jiàn)解來(lái)判斷你這個(gè)人，而非外表。

獲得559好評(píng)的回答@Susannah Laker：

Asthetically “beautiful” people are in the minority, the majority of us are NOT beautiful. If you stop & think about it, just how many beauties do you actually know? You will probably come across not many, so if you fall into this category…. Welcome aboard from most of the human race.以審美的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)來(lái)評(píng)判相貌出眾，那畢竟是少數(shù)，我們大部分人也不過(guò)相貌平平。你不必糾結(jié)此事，話說(shuō)你又認(rèn)識(shí)多少美女呢？你應(yīng)該只是蕓蕓眾生中的一個(gè)，歡迎來(lái)到普通人的世界。

 

獲得933好評(píng)的回答@Cora West：

You do not deserve to be treated this way. It makes me want to cry. It is horrifying to hear that she could say that to you - and tell you that about your dad. I’m sure it is not true. She sounds extremely abusive. If you could talk to a counselor at school and tell them everything, that would be a good idea.你不應(yīng)該受到這種對(duì)待，這讓我抓狂，你媽媽會(huì)這樣說(shuō)你真是讓人心寒，關(guān)于你爸的那段也是，我肯定你媽媽說(shuō)的不是事實(shí)。她的這種行為是妥妥的言語(yǔ)虐待，如果你把這些告訴學(xué)校的老師，這也不失為一個(gè)好主意。

 

獲得1k好評(píng)的回答@Konstantinos Konstantinides：

Your mom is a big part of your life, but it is NOT your life. You are whatever you are and I am sure lots of people find you beautiful. Your mom needs therapy. Lots of therapy, because probably she believes you are the reason your dad left both of you (VERY doubtful). You can’t fix everything in the world, but move on. Find friends and family who love you, study, get a career, and get away from your poisonous mom.你媽媽占據(jù)你生命中的一大部分，但不是全部。你是你自己，我肯定有不少人覺(jué)得你是漂亮的。你的母親需要心理治療，而且是下猛料的那種，她居然認(rèn)為你父親離開(kāi)你們娘倆是因?yàn)槟?。（腦子有病）。你不可能彌合所有關(guān)系，但是你的生活還是不斷向前的。身邊總有其他愛(ài)你的親朋好友，努力學(xué)習(xí)，找份工作，離開(kāi)你惡毒的母親。

 

獲得658好評(píng)的回答@Dominic Dannies：

99 % of the people are grumpy,sad, moody or experience even depressing thoughts on a permanent level. Why ?Because they have two self-destructive thoughts which circulate in infinte patterns :I am too … (fat, stupid, ugly …)I have to …Don’t mind other people’s business.If People telling bad stuff about me the only thing i do is giving them a tissue …It’s your Life.世界上百分之99的人都暴躁，沮喪，性情多變，甚至想要自殺。為什么呢？這種自暴自棄的想法多源于：我太胖了、笨了、太丑，所以我想。。。別人說(shuō)啥關(guān)你毛事。如果別人給我訴苦，我只會(huì)給別人遞上紙巾，你的人生要自己主宰。

 

獲得757好評(píng)的回答@Joyce Frankel：

As you get older you will understand that it does not take a beautiful face to be very attractive and appealing. That comes from self-confidence, the understanding that you are someone unique等你大一點(diǎn)的時(shí)候你就會(huì)明白，讓人著迷的不會(huì)是一張漂亮的臉蛋兒。而是你的自信滿滿，無(wú)可替代。

獲得147好評(píng)的回答@Matt Thurlow-Fox：

Ok firstly half your looks come from her.Secondly my speculation is that she's unhappy with her life and blaming you instead of herself.Thirdly, if she can't do her job as a mother, why do you believe she's capable of correctly judging looks? Fourthly, I absolutely promise that being beautiful wouldn't make you long-term happy.首先你的長(zhǎng)相一半是遺傳你的母親，第二我認(rèn)為她把自己命運(yùn)的不順發(fā)泄在你的頭上。再次，如果她連自己母親的職責(zé)都做不好，那她憑什么對(duì)你的長(zhǎng)相做出正確的判斷。第四，我保證長(zhǎng)得好看也不代表你能一直快樂(lè)。

 

（翻譯：林潯鷗）

(來(lái)源:滬江)