英語流行話題聽力:Unit42 透視妒嫉心理

[00:00.01] Unit 42 Understanding Jealousy Most of us have experienced Shakespeare's" green eyed monster" -- jealousy. [00:09.19] It is a terrible obsession. [00:11.33] Often in a crisis we 'd like to kill the person who tries to take our lover away. [00:17.22] It is said that 20% to 35% of all murders involve a jealous lover. [00:23.57] Just as falling in love seems" natural" and unlearned, so does jealousy. [00:29.16] It just comes over us when someone or something( like work, TV, or sports) threatens our love relationship. [00:38.18] There are four stages of jealousy: Suspecting the threat: If you are insecure about a love relationship and very dependent on your lover, [00:49.47] you are likely to be jealous. [00:52.01] You may see" signs" of disaster when none are there. [00:56.02] In reality, 45% of the people in the Psychology Today survey had cheated on a partner while pretending to be faithful. [01:05.39] If the threat to our relationship -- the competitor -- is attractive, intelligent, successful, etc., we will be more threatened and more disturbed. [01:18.22] Assessing the threat: We may spy on our lover and the competitor; we probably lie awake nights worrying about the situation and reviewing the signs, [01:29.52]" Did she come on to him?"" I wonder if he has talked to her?"" Does he love her? [01:36.22]"" Wonder if everybody but me knows about it?" ... Women are concerned about their partner becoming attracted to other women by sex, [01:45.04] intelligence, and other attractions, and dissatisfaction with the current relationship. [01:51.42] Men are more concerned about protecting their egos if they are" beaten out" by another man; they worry about their partner having sex with someone else( but they 'd probably blame the partner if that did happen). [02:05.48] It is in this deep worry and spying stage that we go crazy. [02:12.01] Emotional reactions: If we decide there is a threat to our love, we can have a very wide range of responses: clinging dependency, [02:24.09] anger at the competitor or the partner, morbid curiosity, self criticism, and depression with suicidal thoughts, hurt and resentment of the partner's lack of devotion, [02:37.22] social embarrassment, selfish -- sometimes realistic -- concerns(" I 'd better take the money out of the bank"), [02:46.00] urge to" get back at" the partner, fear of losing companionship, loneliness, regrets at giving up all the future plans, [02:56.09] etc. [02:57.48] Coping response: There are two basic choices -- trying to save the threatened relationship or trying to protect your sagging ego. [03:09.01] Men are more likely to become competitive or angry, often including getting drunk. [03:14.52] Women more often become weak and depressed. [03:18.18] After an affair, men want sexual details and women want to know how serious the relationship is.

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