如果你在工作、親密關系或其他方面有過相似的心情,覺得人生總是陷入在一種“討好模式”,那么,你可能也是一個好好先生/小姐(people-pleaser)。
You’ve probably suspected for a while that you’re a People Pleaser. Every time you go out with that friend you no longer really want to keep in touch with. Or every time you agree to babysit your cousin’s dog (even though you’re not much of a fur-lover yourself). Or whatever this scenario involves for you.
你可能曾經懷疑過自己是不是好好先生。比如在每次你和不再想聯(lián)系的一位友人約會時,又或者你答應一位表親幫他/她照顧狗狗時(雖然你自己并不是一位愛狗人士),你總是陷入要當好好先生的境地。
You say “yes” to make other people happy.
你答應對方,取悅別人。
5 Signs You’re a People Pleaser
以下是你成為好好先生的五個標志:
One: You have a hard time saying no to others.
感到無法拒絕別人。
Two: You don’t want to let anyone down. (oh my goodness, the guilt!)
不想讓任何人失望。(我的天哪,內疚!)
Three: You’re afraid of making people feel bad.
害怕讓他人感到難過。
Four: You prioritise other people’s needs over your own.
優(yōu)先考慮別人的事情。
Five: You lose time working on other people’s agendas.
因為他人的安排耽誤時間。
(中國日報網(wǎng)英語點津 yaning)