在遇到陌生人時(shí)或在冷場的情況下,你是否會想到要說些什么來發(fā)起大家的交談如果有這樣的想法,那你又是否知道哪些談話開場白(conversation starter)是人們所喜歡的。
今天就來教大家如何發(fā)起談話吧。雖然我們所說的這些開場白非常簡單,但這可不是在愚弄大家,因?yàn)樗鼈兇_實(shí)有效。有一點(diǎn)大家必須知道,使用這些開場白的目的是引起談話,我們所要做的只是打破沉默,而不是逗別人開心或引起別人的好感。因?yàn)槿绻阆胫玫谝痪湓捑妥屓搜矍耙涣?、對你刮目相看,那只會令你自己感到緊張而怯于發(fā)起談話的。
這次要跟大家分享的是那些適用于在任何情況下對任何人發(fā)起談話的開場白。
1. 換個(gè)方式問"How are you?":
"How are you doing right now?"
"How's your day been so far?"
同樣是問"你過得怎樣"但是如此問的效果要好很多,因?yàn)闆]人想去回答甚至思考一下像"How are you?"這樣一個(gè)過于陳腐的問題。
2. 人們總是樂意談?wù)撟罱l(fā)生的新鮮事:
"What's happened for you today?"
"How was your trip?"
"How'd you sleep last night?"
3. 借助情境,簡單評論一下身邊事物:
"What do you think of that book?"
"Looks like a great drink. What is it?"
"I love this place because it's got great energy."
4. 以贊美來開頭:
"I like your posture. It makes you stand out nicely."
"Nice shirt. Where did you get it?"
"I love your style!"
5. 談?wù)勌鞖猓?/strong>
"It's so hot today."
"The great sun is burning this afternoon."
"It's freezing! Do you know the temperature?"
這個(gè)方式經(jīng)常被提到,但是美國漫畫家Kin Hubbard說,"Don't knock the weather. Nine-tenths of the people couldn't start a conversation if it didn't change once in a while."要用天氣這種通常情況下沒有太多變化的東西來發(fā)起談話并非一定容易,所以也不可過分倚重于此。
6. 降低姿態(tài):
"I don't know anyone around here so I thought I'd come talk to you."
"I'm a little nervous talking with strangers, but I just had to come say hi."
"I know no one here so I thought I'd introduce myself to you."
這類我們可以稱之為"vulnerable introduction",也就是在開場白中顯露出自己的惶恐憂慮,這樣比較容易讓人愿意接近。
7. 坦率表明自己想要接近的原因:
"I'm out meeting new, interesting people tonight. Mind if we chat for a minute?"
"You guys look like you're having fun. That's so cool that I just had to come talk to you."
"I had to come talk to you because your shirt made me laugh."
8. 了解即時(shí)訊息,談?wù)劅衢T事件:
"I was just listening to radio on my way here and can't believe what happened in Africa."
如果你不是那種喜歡啃報(bào)紙、聽新聞的人,那就可以以詢問對方有什么新鮮事的方式來發(fā)起談話。另外,在這樣的對話中可以多用些幽默來緩解一下緊張嚴(yán)肅的氣氛。
9. 以過去的偶然交集來開頭:
"I believe we saw each other at James' party."
"I think we ran into each other at the trade event last month."
"Did we meet last year at Church?"
10. 閑聊假期:
"How's your Christmas preparations going?"
"How'd the New Year go for you?"
"Spring Break has been crazy. What's happened to you at Spring Break so far?"
問問對方為假期做了哪些準(zhǔn)備、假期里有什么有趣的經(jīng)歷等等,這樣的話題每個(gè)人都有內(nèi)容可以談。
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