讓我們平心靜氣地說幾句實話:世界上有些人就是很討厭。那個把車停在你車位上的家伙,那個想盡辦法讓你的生活變得悲慘的老板,我們所有人有時都不得不和討厭的人打交道。以下是如何做到最好的方法。
8. The Grocery Store Douchebag
8. 對付雜貨店的混蛋
It's a small annoyance to be sure, but there's always that one person at the grocery store who just grinds your gears. The guy who steals your parking spot, then takes the last box of Dunkaroos, then cuts in line in front of you. If you aren't the uber-patient type, we've shared some tips about how to deal with an asshole parker and how to deal with people that cut in line. Though if it actually is the same person that does both of those things, they're probably just a jerk and you're better off stealing their Dunkaroos.
確實,這只是一個小麻煩。但總有一個人,會在雜貨店里讓你恨得牙癢癢。那個家伙偷了你的停車位,拿走了最后一盒Dunkaroos曲奇,然后在你前面插隊。如果你不是那種非常有耐心的人,我們分享了一些如何與這樣的混蛋打交道的小技巧,以及如何與隨便插隊的人打交道。不過,如果這兩件事都是同一個人干的,他們可能就是個混蛋,你最好把他們的Dunkaroos曲奇偷走。
7. The Sloppy Roommate
7. 馬虎的室友
Finding a good roommate can be a crapshoot. Sometimes, you just end up with a slob and have to learn to live with it. But, before you get all huffy, try to solve things amicably. There are a lot of things you can do to make the situation better (and become a better roommate yourself). Of course, if it gets really bad, then you can think about evicting them.
找一個好室友是件風險很大的事。有時候,你只能和一個懶漢在一起,而你不得不學著去適應它。但是,在你變得暴躁之前,試著友好地解決問題。你可以做很多事來使情況變得更好一些(同時,自己也能成為一個更好的室友)。當然,如果情況真的很糟糕,你可以考慮把他們趕出去。
6. The Negative, Irrational Arguer
6. 消極的、不理性的陳述者
Whether is one of your close friends or that guy in your office that just wants to pick a fight, we all know someone who's overly negative and just likes to argue. Dealing with their negativity is the first step to cohabitation, but once they actually get you roped into an argument, you're on different ground. In those cases, you're better off getting out of the argument rather than spurring it on, no matter how irrational they are (and no matter how much you know you're right). Though...you should make sure you are right, first. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
無論是你的其中一位好朋友,還是你辦公室里那個只想吵架的家伙,我們都知道有些人過于消極,喜歡爭吵。處理他們的消極情緒是同居的第一步,但一旦他們真的讓你陷入爭吵,你就站在了完全不同的立場上。在這種情況下,你最好從爭論中抽身而出,而不是繼續(xù)爭論下去,無論他們有多不理性(無論你多么清楚自己是對的)。盡管……首先,你應該確定你確實是對的。即使壞了的鐘,一天也能對兩次。
5. The Overbearing Family Member
5. 蠻橫的家庭成員
No matter how much you love your family or friends, we all know a few people that can just get a little high maintenance from time to time and stress you out. The best thing you can do is set clear boundaries so they don't get under your skin too much. But, seeing as that isn't always an option, you'll also need to learn how to deal with that kind of stress when you're forced to be around them for long periods of time. Just remember to choose your battles wisely. 不管你有多愛你的家人或朋友,我們都知道有一些人需要旁人一些更高的忍耐力,讓你壓力山大。
在此時,你能做的最好的事情就是設定清晰的界限,這樣他們就不會太觸碰到你的底線。但是,考慮到這并不總是一個辦法,你也需要學習當你被迫長時間和他們在一起時,如何處理這種壓力。只要記住,明智地選擇你的戰(zhàn)斗。
4. The Chronically Late Friend
4. 常年有遲到習慣的朋友
Sometimes, even our best friends can be annoying. We probably all have at least one friend that's late to everything, and while it seems like a minor annoyance, it can occasionally cause bigger problems—not to mention it's just plain rude. You guys have offered a lot of suggestions for dealing with chronically late friends, and if you're feeling a little evil, you can go radio silent to really teach them a lesson. We've also talked about how to fix your own chronic lateness, and you might offer some of that advice to your friends as well—but be sure not to sound like a jerk when you do it.
有時候,甚至我們最好的朋友也會變得很煩人。我們可能都至少有一個朋友做任何事情都總是遲到。雖然這看起來只是一個小麻煩,但有時會導致更大的問題——更不用說這是一種非常不禮貌的行為了。你們?yōu)槿绾翁幚沓D赀t到的朋友提供了很多建議,如果你覺得有點不好意思,你可以去無聲之聲給他們上一課。我們還討論了如何解決你自己長期以來的遲到問題,你也可以給你的朋友們提供一些建議——但千萬不要在你這么做的時候聽起來像個混蛋。
3. The Noisy Neighbor
3. 吵鬧的鄰居
From wall-vibrating dubstep to loud sound, noisy neighbors always suck. Unfortunately, it's something you'll have to deal with at some point in your life if you live in apartment buildings. The best way to deal with a noisy neighbor is to just talk to them nicely. Often, they might not realize how loud they are, and would be happy to stop. If that isn't possible, you can take slightly more covert measures, or just contact the authorities. Or you could transmit your music to their speakers and really freak them out.
從震動墻壁的電子音樂到吵鬧的聲音,吵鬧的鄰居總是很糟糕。不幸的是,如果你住在公寓樓里,在生活的某個時刻,你將不得不面對這個問題。對付吵鬧的鄰居最好的辦法就是和他們好好談談。通常情況下,他們可能沒有意識到自己有多大聲,會很樂意停下來。如果這是不可能的,你可以采取更隱蔽的措施,或者直接聯(lián)系當局?;蛘吣憧梢园涯愕囊魳穫魉偷剿麄兊膿P聲器上播放,把他們嚇壞。
2. The Horrible Boss
2. 可怕的老板
Some people have issues with authority figures, but some authority figures just have issues. If you're stuck with a truly crazy boss, it can make work a living hell, not to mention follow you home and infect your personal life. We've shared lots of ways to deal with your crazy boss before, but it's also worth making sure you aren't just being an oversensitive employee. If you can't keep your distance, you'll have to file an official complaint. Luckily, we've got tricks for that too.
有些人對權(quán)威人士有意見,但有些權(quán)威人士就是有各種各樣的意見。如果你被一個真正瘋狂的老板困住了,這會讓工作變成人間地獄。更不用說工作上的事宜會跟著你回家,影響你的個人生活了。我們之前分享過很多對付瘋狂老板的方法,但你需要確保,你不是一個過于敏感的員工。如果你不能保持距離,你就必須正式投訴。幸運的是,我們也有一些技巧。
1. You
1. 你自己
Most of us don't think we're jerks, but occasionally, we all have our annoying tendencies. It's human nature. The key is realizing how you're annoying people, and taking the effort to do something about "accidental asshole" syndrome. Gather critiques from your friends and family, then be open and talk it out with them. If you're really dedicated to becoming better, there are a lot of surefire strategies you can use to make sure you improve all those little idiosyncrasies that bother people, making everyone (including yourself) much happier.
我們大多數(shù)人并不認為自己是混蛋,但偶爾,我們都有令人討厭的可能。這是人的本性。關(guān)鍵是要意識到你是如何惹惱別人的,并努力去解決“意外混蛋”綜合癥。從你的朋友和家人那里收集批評意見,然后開誠布公地和他們談談。如果你真的想變得更好,你可以使用很多肯定有效的策略來確保你能改善那些讓人煩惱的小習慣,讓每個人(包括你自己)都更快樂。