以下7個提升聊天技巧的方法已經(jīng)幫助了數(shù)千人:
1.Maintain good eye contact.
1.保持好的眼神接觸。
Eye contact helps build and maintain trust. Don’tstare at the person though!
眼神接觸有助于建立并保持信任,但不要盯著對方看!
2.Seek to understand.
2.盡量理解。
Try to understand the other person and theirviewpoint before responding. This will help you respond more intelligently.
做出回應之前努力理解對方和他的觀點,這有助于你做出更明智的回應。
3.Never interrupt.
3.不要打斷。
Even if you know what the other person is going to say, don’t interrupt them. Let them finishtheir sentence first.
即使你知道對方要說什么,也不要打斷,先讓他們說完。
4.Ask open-ended questions.
4.問開放式問題。
A good way to keep a conversation going is to ask questions that don’t have a yes or noanswer.
使聊天進行下去的一個好方法就是要問一些不只用“是”或“不是”來回答的問題。
5.Be open and honest.
5.思想開放而且要誠實。
Being honest with people makes conversation flow so much easier, and builds goodrelationships!
對人誠實能使聊天更輕松,還能建立良好的關系!
6.Frame your views for the other person.
6.提出對方贊同的觀點。
Try to explain your viewpoint in a way that is inoffensive to the other person.
盡量在解釋自己觀點時不冒犯對方。
7.Meet them where they are at.
7.聊天要適合對方的水平。
Short and easy to understand leads to good conversation.
簡單明了是聊好的關鍵。
Here are some ideas
下面是我的一些想法
When people ask you a simple question, don't respond with the habitual one word.
有人問你一個簡單問題時,不要習慣性地只回答一個字。
When you are in social situations and you are scared of breaking the ice. Take a deep breath. Then say hello or hey there. Those two are the best ice breakers in the world.
在社交場合你不敢打破沉默時,深呼吸,然后說“hello”或“hey”,這兩個詞是世界上打破沉默最好的詞。
Always ask why. Asking why people make decisions is how you get to know them on anemotional level.
總要問為什么。問人們?yōu)槭裁醋瞿菢拥臎Q定可以使你在精神層面了解他們。
Ask interesting questions. Ask creative questions such as - what's your story What's theCraziest thing you have ever done
問有趣的問題。問一些有創(chuàng)造力的問題,比如:你有什么故事?你做過什么最瘋狂的事?
When you feel the awkward silence. Don't panic, just ask another question preferably whatbrought them there or their favorite type of music.
當你感覺沉默很尷尬時,不要慌,再問一個更合適的問題,比如他們?yōu)槭裁慈ツ莾夯蜃钕矚g什么類型的音樂。
When you meet new people, talk about you until you see that they are relaxed with you. Thengive them a chance to talk.
第一次跟別人見面,先聊聊自己的事,直到你發(fā)現(xiàn)對方和你聊天很放松了再給他們機會說話。
Dig for gold conversations ideas by observing their faces while you talk.
聊天時觀察對方的臉色尋找最適合聊的內容。
MoDULatE your tone as you tell your stories. Put life and emotion into your voice.
講自己故事時注意語氣,聲音中要帶有活力和感情。
Don't droll on about your accomplishments. It will make you look arrogant. They want you tohear about their own accomplishments.
不要拿自己的成就開玩笑。這會讓別人感覺你很自負,他們只想讓你聽他們自己的成就。
Don't complain either. Complaining makes you a buzzkill.
也不要抱怨。抱怨會讓你變得很掃興。
Don't ever argue. I don't mean you should agree with everything, just state your opinions andleave it at that.
不要爭辯。我不是說你應該什么都同意,你只要表明自己的觀點,然后點到為止。
Be updated on the latest topics you discuss with your friends.
時刻關注能和朋友聊什么最熱門的話題。
Spy on your conversation partner with the Interne. Spy on them with Google, check theirsocial media pages. See what common things comes up. Those will give you ideas on whatthey'll like to talk about.
上網(wǎng)調查一下你的談話對象。上谷歌調查他們,看看他們的社交網(wǎng)絡頁面,找找有什么共有的內容,你就能知道他們喜歡聊什么話題了。