怎樣和異性搭訕才不尷尬?

1.先握手

A proper handshake conveys trust, respect, andequality. Make eye contact, smile, and shake fromthe elbow.

1.適當?shù)奈帐帜鼙磉_信任、尊重和平等，要有眼神交流、微笑，握手時肘部用力。

2. First, look for singletons

2.首先，要選獨處的人

People standing by themselves are the best optionto approach. Two people standing shoulder-to-shoulder and groups of people that are closed off in a tight circle are likely not open tonewcomers.

獨自站著的人最適合接近。肩并肩站著的兩個人和圍成小圈子的一群人可能不歡迎外人。

3. Practice on Your Server

3.找服務員練習

If what you’re most nervous about is being ignored, test the waters by chatting up a waiter, waitress, barista, or bartendert.

如果你害怕被人忽視，可以找男女服務員、咖啡師或者酒保搭話。

4. Offer your name, and repeat theirs

4.主動說出自己的名字并重復對方的名字

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound inany language. Start a conversation like “Hi, my name is Jane. What’s yours?” When theperson responds, repeat their name back: “Nice to meet you, John.”

你要記住對一個人而言名字是所有語言中最好聽最重要的聲音。你可以這樣開始聊天：“嗨，我叫Jane，你叫什么名字?”對方回答之后可以重復一遍：“John，很高興見到你。”

5. Acknowledge your acquaintances

5.承認跟別人見過面

If you’ve met someone before reintroduce yourself and say where the two of you met. Nomatter whether they remember you or not, they’ll be flattered you remembered them.

如果你之前見過某個人，可以重新介紹自己并且說出之前在哪兒見過。無論對方是否記得你，他們都會很開心你記得他們。

6. Consider what you have in common

6.找到你們的共同點

After the name game, launch into something you and the person you’re talking to can bondover.

一場著名比賽之后，聊點能讓你和跟你聊天的人建立起親密關系的話題。

7. Watch your body language

7.注意自己的肢體語言

To look most at ease, lace your fingers together in front of you. Lean in to show interest.

為了看起來很放松，可以把手指交織放在身前，身體前傾表現(xiàn)出你感興趣。

8. Don’t fire off too many questions

8.不要拋出太多問題

Give your new acquaintance enough information about yourself that they can comfortably asktheir own questions.

跟新認識的人說足夠多關于你的事，讓他們能輕松地問你一些問題。

9. Draw on their passions

9.利用他們的熱情

Don’t be afraid to ask follow-up questions like,” Why?” or, “How’d you get started with that?” toencourage them to keep speaking if you’ve hit on a subject the person seems passionateabout.

如果你偶然找到一個對方好像很感興趣的話題，不要害怕去問下面這樣的問題：“為什么?”或者“你是怎么開始的?”來鼓勵他們繼續(xù)說下去。

10. Throw out a hypothetical question

10.拋出一個假想的問題

If you’re in a group setting, such as a wedding table or circle of co-workers, ask a quirkyhypothetical question for everyone to discuss.

如果你跟一群人在聊天，比如婚禮的酒桌上或者是一群同事，可以問一個古怪的假想出來的問題讓大家討論一下。

11. Get out gracefully

11.完美收場

When you notice a conversation starting to slow down, end it on a high note. At a naturalpause in the conversation and smile. And, of course, repeat the person’s name: “I’m so gladto have heard about your trip. It was great talking to you, John!”

當你注意到對話開始變慢時要完美收場。對話時自然地停頓并微笑，當然還要重復一下對方的名字：“我真的很高興聽你說旅行的事，John，跟你聊天真好!”