英語(yǔ)聽(tīng)力文摘 寂寞會(huì)傳染
寂寞會(huì)傳染
Some diseases are contagious–like colds, flu, and chicken pox. But what about loneliness? Loneliness may not be a disease, at least not in the same way that chicken pox is. But loneliness can be contagious.
How so? The same way that many emotions can be infectious. Being around someone who’s really happy can put you in a good mood. While hanging around someone who’s depressed can be, well, depressing.
The same goes for loneliness. According to one study, the average person feels lonely about forty-eight days per year. Having a lonely friend adds around seventeen extra days of lonely feelings.
Following more than five-thousand people for ten years, the study observed how loneliness can spread through a group. Lonely people, it seems, transmit their sad, lonely feelings to people around them. What happens, according to the study, is that interacting with a lonely person can leave you with a negative feeling toward friendship generally. And so you’re more likely to have negative experiences with other friends, weakening social bonds. If loneliness is allowed to spread unchecked, it can destroy a social network.
The best way to ward off this sort of lonely contagion is to pay more attention to people on the edges of a group. Reaching out to those who are shy or don’t fit in, and are therefore lonely, can make them feel less alone. And so they’re less likely to spread lonely feelings throughout the group.
一些疾病是會(huì)傳染的，例如一般感冒、流感以及水痘。但是寂寞會(huì)不會(huì)傳染呢?寂寞或許并不是一種疾病，至少跟水痘不一樣吧。但它是會(huì)傳染的。
為什么會(huì)這樣呢?同樣的道理，人的許多情緒都是可以傳染的。在一個(gè)快樂(lè)的人旁邊可以讓你心情愉快;然而在一個(gè)失落的人旁邊會(huì)讓你感到沮喪。
寂寞也是這樣的。一項(xiàng)調(diào)查表明，人在一年當(dāng)中感到孤獨(dú)的平均時(shí)間是48天。 若是有個(gè)寂寞的朋友，會(huì)增加17天左右。
該項(xiàng)目在十年間跟蹤調(diào)查了5000多人，觀察寂寞是如何在一群人中蔓延的。結(jié)果似乎是寂寞的人會(huì)把他們悲傷、寂寞的感覺(jué)傳播給他周圍的人。根據(jù)這項(xiàng)調(diào)查，在一般情況下，與一個(gè)寂寞的人相處會(huì)會(huì)讓你對(duì)友誼有著消極的情緒。這樣一來(lái)，你就很可能與朋友發(fā)生不愉快，削弱你的社會(huì)聯(lián)系。倘若寂寞可以隨意蔓延，它會(huì)毀掉你的社交網(wǎng)絡(luò)。
避免寂寞傳染的最好方式就是將更多的注意力放在處于群里邊緣的人身上，向那些害羞或者不適應(yīng)的人伸出手，這樣會(huì)讓他們感到?jīng)]那么寂寞。從而就不太將寂寞感傳給群體里的人。
