戀愛物語:分手后 如何忘記她

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It feels bad at first, but we all have to move on. Don’t delay and risk getting mired in self pity. Find out what’s great about you without her.

 

You Will Need

*Distractions
*Physical activities
*Impulse control
*Meditation
*Life-affirming books
*New girl

 

Step 1: Start immediately 分手后，立即開始新生活，不要讓感情糾葛阻礙你的生活步伐。
Start your life anew immediately after a breakup with a girlfriend, whether the reason for the breakup was that you were being cheated on, growing apart, or she moved out of the country. The reason doesn’t matter and begging to save the relationship won’t work.

Step 2: Seek friends 避免自己獨處，多跟朋友或家人接觸，轉(zhuǎn)移你的注意力。
Seek the company of family and friends, if only to avoid being alone. Distract yourself from the pain by doing guy things with your buddies — anything that doesn’t involve women.

Step 3: Find physical activities 多參加體育鍛煉，待在屋里會使你更加頹廢。
Find activities — the more physical the better. Go to the gym, play a sport. Breathe, feel good, and live again. Dwelling on the past can paralyze your spirit and foster depression.

Step 4: Resist impulsive behavior 但是不要沖動做傻事。
Resist the impulse to meet women on the internet or visit psychics in the hope they can predict a different outcome.

Try to avoid music right now — especially sappy songs with sentimental lyrics. Sentimentality is the last thing you need right now.

Step 5: Dump her stuff 把與她有關(guān)的東西統(tǒng)統(tǒng)扔掉，眼不見，心不想。
Rid your house of all of her things, cleansing the environment of all reminders to start the healing process. Don’t return her stuff or attempt to get your stuff back. Make a clean break of it.

Step 6: Meditate or read 轉(zhuǎn)移注意力，讀讀書，想想未來的生活。明天的太陽照常升起。
Meditate or read positive, life-affirming books on accepting one’s conditions. Tomorrow is another day.

Step 7: Identify the opportunity “天涯何處無芳草”，給自己機(jī)會去尋找一段真感情。
Make this an opportunity to meet new people and do different things. Something must have been wrong or the relationship would have lasted. Get out of the rut. Remember the cliche, “nothing gets you over the last one like the next one.”

In a 2010 survey of nearly 2,000 people, almost 2/3 of respondents declared they would dump a partner by text message.

 

[重點講解]

impulsive adj. 沖動的；受感情驅(qū)使的；任性的

           His impulsive decision to buy the house proved to be mistake.

           他一時沖動買房子的決定后來證明是個錯誤。

dump vt. 傾倒；傾卸

           I will dump it in the sea.

           我要將它倒入大海。