李開復(fù)致女兒的一封信(圖)
當(dāng)我們開車駛出哥倫比亞大學(xué)的時候，我想寫一封信給你，告訴你盤旋在我腦中的想法。
As we drove off from Columbia, I wanted to write a letter to you to tell you all that is on my mind.
首先，我想告訴你我們?yōu)槟愀械教貏e驕傲。進入哥倫比亞大學(xué)證明你是一個全面發(fā)展的優(yōu)秀學(xué)生，你的學(xué)業(yè)、藝術(shù)和社交技能最近都有卓越的表現(xiàn)，無論是你高中微積分第一名，時尚的設(shè)計，繪制的球鞋，還是在“模擬聯(lián)合國”的演說，你毫無疑問已經(jīng)是一個多才多藝的女孩。你的父母為你感到驕傲，你也應(yīng)該像我們一樣為自己感到自豪。
First, I want to tell you how proud we are. Getting into Columbiais a real testament of what a great well-rounded studentyou are.Your academic, artistic, and social skills have truly blossomed in the last few years. Whether it is getting the highestgrade in Calculus, completing your elegant fashion design,successfully selling your painted running shoes, or becoming one of the toporators in Model United Nations, you have become a talentedand accomplished young woman. You should be as proud of yourself asweare.
女兒讀大學(xué)前的全家福
我會永遠(yuǎn)記得第一次將你抱在臂彎的那一刻，一種新鮮激動的感覺瞬間觸動了我的心，那是一種永遠(yuǎn)讓我陶醉的感覺，就是那種將我們的一生都聯(lián)結(jié)在一起的“父女情結(jié)”。我也常常想起我唱著催眠曲輕搖你入睡，當(dāng)我把你放下的時候，常常覺得既解脫又惋惜，一方面我想，她終于睡著了！另一方面，我又多么希望自己可以多抱你一會兒。我還記得帶你到運動場，看著你玩得那么開心，你是那樣可愛，所有人都非常愛你。
I will always remr the first moment I held you in my arms. I felt a tingling sensation that directly touched my heart. It was an intoxicating feeling I will always have. It must be that“father-daughter connection” which will bind us for life. I will always remr singing you lullaby while I rocked you to sleep.When I put you down, it was always with both relief (she finallyfellasleep!) and regret (wishing I could hold you longer). And I will always remr taking you to the playground, and watching you having so much fun. You were so cute and adorable, and that is why everybody loved you so.
你不但長得可愛，而且是個特別乖巧的孩子。你從不吵鬧、為人著想，既聽話又有禮貌。當(dāng)你三歲我們建房子的時候，每個周末十多個小時你都靜靜地跟著我們?nèi)ミ\建筑材料，三餐在車上吃著漢堡，唱著兒歌，唱累了就睡覺，一點都不嬌氣不抱怨。你去上周日的中文學(xué)習(xí)班時，盡管一點也不覺得有趣，卻依然很努力。我們做父母的能有像你這樣的女兒真的感到非常幸運。
You have been a great kid ever since you were born, always quiet,empathetic, attentive, and well-mannered. You were three when we built our house. I remr you quietly followed us every weekend for more than ten hours a day to get building supplies. You put up with that boring period without a fuss, happily ate hamburgers everymeal in the car, sang with Barney until you fell asleep. When you went to Sunday Chinese school, you studied hard even though it was no fun for you. I cannot believe how lucky we are as parents to have a daughter like you.
你也是個很好的姐姐。雖然你們姐妹以前也會打架，但是長大后，你們真的成為了好朋友。妹妹很愛你，很喜歡逗你笑，她把你當(dāng)成她的榜樣看待。我們開車離開哥大后，她非常想你，我知道你也很想她。世界上最寶貴的就是家人。和父母一樣，妹妹就是你最可以信任的人。隨著年齡的增長，你們姐妹之間的情誼不變，你們互相照應(yīng)，彼此關(guān)心，這就是我最希望見到的事情了。在你的大學(xué)四年，有空時你一定要常常跟妹妹視頻聊聊天，寫寫電子郵件。
You have been an excellent elder sister. Even though you two had your share of fights, the last few years you have become best friends. Your sister loves you so much, and she loves to make you laugh. She looks up to you, and sees you as her role model. As you saw when we departed, she misses you so much. And I know that you miss her just as much. There is nothing like family, and other than your parents, your sister is the one person who you can trust and confide in. She will be the one to take care of you, and the one you must take care of. There is nothing we wish more than that your sisterhood will continue to bond as you grow older, and that you will take care of each other throughout your lives. For the nextfour years, do have a short video chat with her every few days,and do email her when you have a chance.
大學(xué)將是你人生最重要的時光，在大學(xué)里你會發(fā)現(xiàn)學(xué)習(xí)的真諦。你以前經(jīng)常會問到“這個課程有什么用”，這是個好問題，但是我希望你理解：“教育的真諦就是當(dāng)你忘記一切所學(xué)到的東西之后所剩下的東西。”我的意思是，最重要的不是你學(xué)到的具體的知識，而是你學(xué)習(xí)新事物和解決新問題的能力。這才是大學(xué)學(xué)習(xí)的真正意義——這將是你從被動學(xué)習(xí)轉(zhuǎn)向自主學(xué)習(xí)的階段，之后你會變成一個很好的自學(xué)者。所以，即便你所學(xué)的不是生活里所急需的，也要認(rèn)真看待大學(xué)里的每一門功課，就算學(xué)習(xí)的技能你會忘記，學(xué)習(xí)的能力是你將受用終身的。
College will be the most important years in your life. It is in college that you will truly discover what learning is about.You often question “what good is this course”. I encourage you to be in quisitive, but I also want to tell you : “education is what you have left after all that is taught is forgotten”. What I mean by that is the materials taught isn’t as important as you gaining the ability to learn a new subject, and the ability to analyze a new problem. That is really what learning in college is about –thiswill be the period where you go from teacher-taughttomaster-inspired, after which you must become self-learner. So do take each subject seriously, and even if what you learn isn’t critical for your life, the skills of learning will be some thing you cherish forever.
不要被教條所束縛，任何問題都沒有一個唯一的簡單的答案。還記得當(dāng)我?guī)椭愀咧械霓q論課程時，我總是讓你站在你不認(rèn)可的那一方來辯論嗎？我這么做的理由就是希望你能夠理解：看待一個問題不應(yīng)該非黑即白，而是有很多方法和角度。當(dāng)你意識到這點的時候，你就會成為一個很好的解決問題者。這就是“批判的思維”——你的一生都會需要的最重要的思考方式，這也意味著你還需要包容和支持不同于你的其他觀點。我永遠(yuǎn)記得我去找我的博士導(dǎo)師提出了一個新論題，他告訴我：“我不同意你，但我支持你。”多年后，我認(rèn)識到這不僅僅是包容，而是一種批判式思考，更是令人折服的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)風(fēng)格，現(xiàn)在這也變成了我的一部分。我希望這也能成為你的一部分。
Do not fall into the trap of dogma. There is no single simple answer to any question. Remr during your high school debate class,I always asked you to take on the side that you don’t believe in? I did that for a reason -- things rarely “black and white”, andthereare always many ways to look at a problem. You will become abetterproblem solver if you recognized that. This is called“criticalthinking”, and it is the most important thinking skill you need for your life. This also means you need to become tolerantand supportive of others. I will always remr when I went to my Ph.D.advisor and proposed a new thesis topic. He said “I don't agree with you, but I’ll support you.” After the years, I have learned this isn’t just flexibility, it is encouragement of critical thinking, and an empowering style of leadership, and it has become a part of me. I hope it will become a part of you too.
在大學(xué)里你要追隨自己的激情和興趣，選你感興趣的課程，不要困擾于別人怎么說或怎么想。史蒂夫·喬布斯曾經(jīng)說過，在大學(xué)里你的熱情會創(chuàng)造出很多點，在你隨后的生命中你會把這些點串聯(lián)起來。在他著名的斯坦福畢業(yè)典禮演講中，他舉了一個很好的例子：他在大學(xué)里修了看似毫無用處的書法，而十年后，這成了蘋果Macintosh里漂亮字庫的基礎(chǔ)，而因為Macintosh有這么好的字庫，才帶來了桌面出版和今天的辦公軟件（例如微軟Office）。他對書法的探索就是一個點，而蘋果Macintosh把多個點聯(lián)結(jié)成了一條線。所以不要太擔(dān)心將來你要做什么樣的工作，也不要太急功近利。假如你喜歡日語或韓語，就去學(xué)吧，盡管你的爸爸曾說過那沒什么用：）盡興地選擇你的點吧，要有信念有一天機緣來臨時，你會找到自己的人生使命，畫出一條美麗的曲線。
Follow your passion in college. Take courses you think you will enjoy. Don’t be trapped in what others think or say. SteveJobs says when you are in college, your passion will create many dots,and later in your life you will connect them. In his great speech given at Stanford commencement , he gave the great example where he took calligraphy, and a decade later, it became the basisof the beautiful Macintosh fonts, which later ignited desk top publishing,and brought wonderful tools like Microsoft Word to ourlives. His expedition into calligraphy was a dot, and the Macintosh became the connecting line. So don’t worry too much about what job you will have, and don’t be too utilitarian, and if you likeJapanese orKorean, go for it, even if your dad thinks “it’s not useful.” ：）Enjoy picking your dots, and be assured one day you will find your calling, and connect a beautiful curve through the dots.
在功課上要盡力，但不要給自己太多壓力。你媽媽和我在成績上對你沒什么要求，只要你能順利畢業(yè)并在這四年里學(xué)到了些東西，我們就會很高興了。即便你畢業(yè)時沒有獲得優(yōu)異的成績，你的哥倫比亞學(xué)位也將帶你走得很遠(yuǎn)。所以別給自己壓力。在你高中生活的最后幾個月，因為壓力比較小，大學(xué)申請也結(jié)束了，你過得很開心，但是在最近的幾個星期，你好像開始緊張起來。（你注意到你緊張時會咬指甲嗎？）千萬別擔(dān)心，最重要的是你有在學(xué)習(xí)，你需要的唯一衡量是你的努力程度。成績只不過是虛榮的人用以吹噓和慵懶的人所恐懼的無聊數(shù)字而已，而你既不虛榮也不慵懶。
Do your best in classes, but don’t let pressure get to you.Your mother and I have no expectations for your grades. If you graduateand learn something in your four years, we would feel happy. Your Columbia degree will take you far, even if you don’t graduate with honors. So please don’t give yourself pressure。During your last fewmonths in high school, you were so happy because there was little pressure and college applications are finished. But in the past few weeks, we saw you are beginning to worry (did you know you bite your nails when you are nervous?). Please don’t be worried.The only thing that matters is that you learned. The only metric you should use is that you tried. Grades are just silly letters that give the vain people something to brag, and the lazy people something to fear. You are too good to be either.
最重要的是在大學(xué)里你要交一些朋友，快樂生活。大學(xué)的朋友往往是生命中最好的朋友，因為在大學(xué)里你和朋友能夠近距離交往。另外，在一塊兒成長，一起獨立，很自然地你們就會緊緊地系在一起，成為密友。你應(yīng)該挑選一些真誠誠懇的朋友，跟他們親近，別在乎他們的愛好、成績、外表甚至性格。你在高中的最后兩年已經(jīng)交到了一些真正的朋友，所以盡可以相信自己的直覺，再交一些新朋友吧。你是一個真誠的人，任何人都會喜歡跟你做朋友的，所以要自信、外向、主動一點，如果你喜歡某人，就告訴她，就算她拒絕了，你也沒有損失什么。以最大的善意去對人，不要有成見，要寬容。人無完人，只要他們很真誠，就信任他們，對他們友善。他們將給你相同的回報，這是我成功的秘密——我以誠待人，信任他人（除非他們做了失信于我的事）。有人告訴這樣有時我會被占便宜，他們是對的，但是我可以告訴你：以誠待人讓我得到的遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)超過我失去的。在我做管理的18年里，我學(xué)到一件很重要的事——要想得到他人的信任和尊重，只有先去信任和尊重他人。無論是管理、工作、交友，這點都值得你參考。
Most importantly, make friends and be happy. College friends are often the best in life, because during college you are closer to them physically than to your family. Also, going through independence and adulthood is a natural bonding experience.Pick afew friends and become really close to them – pick the ones who are genuine and sincere to you. Don’t worry about their hobbies,grades, looks, or even personalities. You have developed some realfriendships in high school in your last two years, so trust your instinct, and make new friends. You are a genuine andsincereperson – anyone would enjoy being your friend, so beconfident,outgoing, and pro-active. If you think you like someone,tell her.You have very little to lose. Give people the benefit of the doubt;don’t stereotype and be forgiving. People are notperfect, so aslong as they are genuine and sincere, trust them andbe good to them. They will give back. This is my secret of success –that I am genuine with people and trust them (unless they dosomething tolose my trust). Some people tell me that occasionally Iwould betaken advantage of. They are right, but I can tell you thatthatloss is nothing compared to what I gained. In my last 18 years leading people, I have realized that only one thing matters –togain the trust and respect of others, and to do so, you need to trust and respect others first. Whether it is for management,work,or friendship, this is something you should ponder.
要和你高中時代的朋友保持聯(lián)系，但是不要用他們來取代大學(xué)的友誼，也不要把全部的時間都花在老朋友身上，因為那樣你就會失去交新朋友的機會了。
Do keep your high school friends, and stay connected to them,but do not use them as substitutes for college friendship, and donotspend too much time with them, because that would eat into your time to make new friends.
你還要早點開始規(guī)劃你的暑假——你想做什么？你想呆在哪兒？你想學(xué)點什么？你在大學(xué)里學(xué)習(xí)是否會讓你有新的打算？我覺得你學(xué)習(xí)藝術(shù)設(shè)計的計劃很不錯，你應(yīng)該想好你該去哪兒學(xué)習(xí)相應(yīng)的課程。我們當(dāng)然希望你回到北京，但是最終的決定是你的。
Start planning for your summers early – what would you like todo?Where would you like to live? What would you like to learn?Whathave you learned in college that might change your mind? Ithinkyour plan of studying fashion is good, and you should decidewhereyou want to be, and get into the right courses. We of coursehopeyou come back to Beijing, but you should go where you think isbestfor you.
不管是暑假計劃，功課規(guī)劃，抑或是選專業(yè)，管理時間，你都應(yīng)該負(fù)責(zé)你的人生。過去不管是申請學(xué)校、設(shè)計課外活動或者選擇最初的課程，我都從旁幫助了你不少。以后，我仍然會一直站你身旁，但是現(xiàn)在是你自己掌舵的時候了。我常常記起我生命中那些令人振奮的時刻——在幼兒園決定跳級，決定轉(zhuǎn)到計算機科學(xué)專業(yè)，決定離開學(xué)術(shù)界選擇，決定回中國，決定選擇Google，乃至最近選擇創(chuàng)辦我的新公司。有能力進行選擇意味著你會過上自己想要的生活。生命太短暫了，你不能過別人想要你過的生活。掌控自己的生命是很棒的感覺，試試吧，你會愛上它的！
Whether it is summer-planning, or coursework planning, orpickinga major, or managing your time, you should take control of yourlife. In the past, I have helped you quite a bit, whether it is incollege application, designing your extracurricular activities,orpicking the initial coursework. I will always be there for you,but the time has come for you to be in the driver’s seat – this isyourlife, and you need to be in control. I will always remr theexhilarating feeling in my life – that I got to decide to skip kinder garten, that I got to decide to change to computersciencemajor, that I got to decide to leave academia for , that I got todecide to go to China, that I got to decide to go to Google,andmost recently, that I got to decide to start my own business.Being able to decide means you get to live the life that you want to.Life is too short to live the life others do or others want you.Being in control feels great. Try it, and you’ll love it!
我告訴你媽媽我在寫這封信，問她有什么想對你說的，她想了想，說“讓她好好照顧自己”，很簡單卻飽含著真切的關(guān)心——這一向是你深愛的媽媽的特點。這短短的一句話，是她想提醒你很多事情，比如要記得自己按時吃藥，好好睡覺，保持健康的飲食，適量運動，不舒服的時候要去看醫(yī)生等等。中國有句古語，說“身體發(fā)膚，受之父母，不敢毀傷，孝之始也”。這句話的意思用比較新的方法詮釋就是說：父母最愛的就是你，所以照顧好自己就是孝順最好的方法。當(dāng)你成為母親的那天，你就會理解這些。在那天之前，聽媽媽的，你一定要好好照顧自己。
I told your mom I’m writing this letter, and asked what she wanted me to say. She thought and said: “just ask her to take care of herself.” Simple but deeply caring – that is how your mother is,and that is why you love her so much. In this simple sentence is her hope that you will become independent in the way you take careofyourself – that you will remr to take your medicine, that you will get enough sleep, that you will have a balanced diet, that you will get some exercise, and that you will go see a doctor whenever you don’t feel good. An ancient Chinese proverb says that the most important thing to be nice to your parents is to take care of yourself. This is because your parents love you so much, and that if you are well, they will have comfort. You will understand this one day when you become a mother. But in the meantime,please listen to your mother and take care of yourself.
大學(xué)是你自由時間最多的四年。大學(xué)是你第一次學(xué)會獨立的四年。大學(xué)是可塑性最強的四年。大學(xué)是犯錯代價最低的四年。
College is the four years where you have:· the greatest amount of free time.· the first chance to be independent.· the most flexibility to change.· the lowest risk for making mistakes.
所以，珍惜你的大學(xué)時光吧，好好利用你的空閑時間，成為掌握自己命運的獨立思考者，發(fā)展自己的多元化才能，大膽地去嘗試，通過不斷的成功和挑戰(zhàn)來學(xué)習(xí)和成長，成為融匯中西的人才。
So please treasure your college years – make the best of your free time, become an independent thinker in control of yourdestiny,evolve yourself into a bi-cultural talent, be bold to experiment,learn and grow through your successes andchallenges.
當(dāng)我在2005年面對人生最大的挑戰(zhàn)時，你給了我大大的擁抱，還跟我說了一句法語“bonnechance”。這句話代表“祝你勇敢，祝你好運！”現(xiàn)在，我也想跟你說同樣的話，bonnechance，我的天使和公主，希望哥倫比亞成為你一生中最快樂的四年，希望你成為你夢想成為的人！
When I faced the greatest challenge and opportunity in my life in 2005, you gave me a big hug and said “bonne chance”, which means“good luck” and “good courage”. Now I do the same for you.Bonne chance, my angel and princess. May Columbia become the happiest four years in your life, and may you blossom into just what you dream to be.
