一句好的開場白有助于你給他人留下難忘的第一印象。它會讓你和某人的初次見面變得非常美好,讓你們之間發(fā)展出長久的友誼和有價值的合作關系。
A bad ice breaker, however, can be a recipe for disaster. So, how do you start a meaningful conversation with someone new and avoid embarrassments or awkward moments of silence? Where do you begin?
然而一句糟糕的開場白則可能引發(fā)災難。那么你該如何和初次見面的人開始一場有意義的交談,而且避免尷尬和冷場呢?你該怎么進行開場?
1. “How are you doing today, miss?”
“小姐,今天過得怎么樣?”
A genuine hello accompanied by a heartwarming, three second smile is one of the most basic, highly effective ice breakers there is.
一句真誠的問候搭配上一個溫暖的三秒鐘微笑是最基本也最有用的開場白。
Think about the people who say “good morning” or “howdy” to their neighbors. This simple greeting is usually followed up with “how are you” or “how are the kids?” Before long, the two parties are talking about their families and even favorite sports teams.
想想那些對鄰居說“早上好”或者“你好”的人。這種簡單的問候通常會得到“你好嗎”或者“孩子們好嗎”作為回應。很快,雙方就開始談論他們的家庭甚至最喜歡的球隊了。
2. “Nice earrings!”
“你的耳環(huán)真漂亮!”
This comment represents a classic technique that is quite effective for starting a conversation. Regardless of whom you are talking to, saying something genuinely nice about their outfit, accessories or even mood will usually be received well.
這句評價代表了開場白中十分有用的一種經(jīng)典技巧。不論你在和誰聊天,真誠地贊美一下他們的著裝、配飾、甚至是心情,對方通常會很樂意接受。
The person receiving the compliment will thank you and possibly say something nice about you in return. In doing this, a dialogue begins. Keep the dialogue going by asking a question like “Where did you buy the earrings? I really like them.”
接受你贊美的人會向你表示感謝,可能還會對你說一些贊美的話作為回報。這樣一來,一場對話就開始了。想要繼續(xù)對話,可以問這樣的問題,比如“你的耳環(huán)在哪里買的?我非常喜歡。”
3. “Does this shop always have such long queues?”
“這家商店門口總是要排這么長的隊嗎?”
By focusing on an unpleasant situation that you both find yourselves in and subtly complaining about it, you cleverly suck the other person into an unwitting pact that unites both of you against a common enemy.
關注某個你們共同身處的不愉快的場景并且不經(jīng)意地抱怨,你就巧妙地把對方和自己拉到了一條陣線上,對抗一個共同的敵人。
4. “Chicago really is the windy city!”
“芝加哥確實是風之城啊!”
Yes. Talk about the weather. It may sound clichéd, but it works wonders in real life. People talk about the weather all the time—It’s a topic everyone has an opinion on. Think of how you have an opinion about what dress or fashion choice is right for different weather.
沒錯,談論天氣。聽上去也許有點老套,但在現(xiàn)實中確實管用。人們總是在談論天氣——這是一個人人都可以發(fā)表觀點的話題。你可以想想對于不同天氣該如何穿衣搭配的觀點。
Once the person responds, you can ease into the conversation with “small talk” like, “The wind is so strong; it nearly blew me over!”
一旦對方做出回應,你就可以很容易把談話繼續(xù)下去,比如“風太大了,就快把我吹跑了!”
5. “Oh, did you hear about…”
“你聽沒聽說……”
Kick-start a conversation with a description of an interesting, entertaining and/or funny story.
描述一個有趣的、娛樂性的或者搞笑的故事作為開場白。
If your story is interesting enough, there really is no telling where it could take the ensuing dialogue and for how long you could stretch the conversation once your new friend gets on board.
如果你的故事足夠有趣,就沒必要擔心你們的對話該如何繼續(xù)或者繼續(xù)多久了,只要你的新朋友被你的故事吸引就行。
6. “What kind of drink is that?
“你喝的是什么?”
People love eating and drinking.
人們喜歡吃吃喝喝。
When she replies, follow up with something like “Do you really like it?” or ” Can I buy you another?” Introduce yourself and don’t forget to flash your best charming smile.
如果她回答你了,可以繼續(xù)問“你真的喜歡嗎?”或者“我能再請你喝一杯嗎?”自我介紹一下,別忘了展現(xiàn)你最迷人的微笑。
7. “That’s a lovely name; are you named after someone?”
“這個名字真好聽, 是以某個人命名的嗎?”
This works especially well in a workplace setting, business meeting or conference where people are wearing name tags. If she has an interesting name, walk up to her and say something like “Camille, lovely name. What’s the origin of the name?”
這句開場白尤其適用于工作場所、商務會議之類人們帶著姓名胸牌的場合。如果她的名字很有意思,走上去對她說“卡米爾,可愛的名字,它的來歷是什么呢?”
8. “Hello, do you work here?”
“你好,你在這里工作嗎?”
This also works well at a workplace or business setting where people are wearing name tags. Even if you know the answer, ask whether he works there anyway.
這句同樣適用于人們佩戴姓名胸牌的工作場所或商務場合。即使你知道答案,也要問問他是否在這里工作。
Follow up with related questions like “What do you do here?” “Have you been working here a long time?” “Do you like it here?” “What’s your favorite/worst part of your job?
接下來可以問一些相關的問題,比如“你在這里做什么工作?”“你在這里工作很久了嗎?”“你喜歡這里嗎?”“你最喜歡/最不喜歡這份工作哪一點?”
9. “People call me David, but you can call me TONIGHT.”
“人們叫我大衛(wèi),不過你今晚可以給我打電話。”
Okay, telling a joke is easier said than done. Jokes can be tricky, but they’re some of the best conversations starters you can throw at someone new. They help the other person see a witty, fun and likeable side of your personality.
確實,講笑話說起來容易做起來難。講笑話并不容易,但是和某人初次見面時,笑話是最好的開場白。它可以讓對方看到你性格當中幽默、有趣、可愛的一面。
That said, unless you’re really confident about your joke-telling skills, it’s probably a good idea to avoid them or start with a self-deprecating joke. You can’t possibly offend yourself, can you?
雖然如此,除非你對自己講笑話的技巧非常自信,否則最好還是不要講,尤其是自我貶低型的笑話。你不太能冒犯自己吧,對嗎?
10. “Excuse me, I just thought I should come over and talk to you.”
“打擾一下,我覺得我應該過來跟你聊聊。”
Sometimes the best and most fun ice breaker is honesty.
有時候最好也最有趣的開場白就是大實話。
Honesty really can be the best policy. Who doesn’t love a refreshing bout of honesty, any way?
誠實確實是最佳法則。無論如何,誰不喜歡讓人振奮的誠實出擊呢?
There you have it: ten of the most effective ice breakers you can use to initiate a meaningful conversation with someone new.
現(xiàn)在你知道了10句最有用的開場白。你可以用來和初次見面的人開始一場有意義的對話了。