讀點好英文:The LittIe Words That Work Marriage Magic 創(chuàng)造婚姻奇跡的小字眼

The LittIe Words That Work Marriage Magic 創(chuàng)造婚姻奇跡的小字眼

·Spike·

Using terms of endearment like honey or sweetheart from time to time is a small but important way to keep a marriage loving. These terms make the other person feel loved and special.There are some other words that can help make your spouse feel special and aware of how much you love and appreciate him.

“Thank You.”We would not never thank a friend or co-worker for helping us out. But sometimes we forget to thank the person we love most：our spouse.All couples forget now and then to thank each other for all they do.But thanking each other is a good habit to fall into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of love.Knowing that their actions are appreciated makes a couple more giving toward each other, and the more you give to each other the more your love will grow.

“Please.”Please, like thank you, is easy to forget to say, but it too is very important in a relationship. Because it is another way of letting your partner know you don't take him for granted and that his time and effort count.

“You are great.”Do you know that this sentence can make him feel good about himself all day?Now that you know how nice it makes him feel to be complimented, you should try to do it as often as you can. As an added bonus, he will begin paying compliments to you more often.This is not surprising since, experts say, compliments are a two-way street.So the more compliments you give, the more you get.Often couples will think nice things about each other but not verbaIize their thoughts because they're just not in the habit of doing so.But when one of them starts, the other will pick up on the cue and begin doing the same.

“I love you.”in a new way. A small variation such as“I love you more each day”can make a big difference in how you feel about each other.When you say“I love you”the exact same way over and over, your spouse may start to discount it.On the other hand, a fresh phrase can help keep the relationship fresh.For instance, you can express your love for him by saying“I'm so glad you're in my life.”I'm sure he will be really impressed and touched, and you two will feel closer.

斯帕克

經(jīng)常用“寶貝”“甜心”之類的親昵語，是一種讓婚姻永葆鮮活的簡單但很重要的方法。這些親昵的詞語能讓人深切感受到對方的愛意，也能感受到自己在其心中的特殊地位。另外也有一些字眼能讓愛人體會到他（她）在你心中的分量，感到你有多么愛他，多么欣賞他。

“謝謝你?！蔽覀兛倳谂笥鸦蛲聨兔蟊硎靖兄x，然而有時候卻忘了感謝我們最愛的人——妻子或丈夫。夫妻間時而會忘記彼此道謝，但這是一個良好的習慣，在愛的成長路途中是不可缺少的。只有自己所做的得到了對方的認同和欣賞，我們才會樂意給予更多。彼此給予得越多，愛就會增值越多。

“請”和“謝謝”一樣容易被忽略，但這兩個字眼在夫妻關(guān)系中，也是相當?shù)赜蟹至?。因為它也能讓你的愛人意識到，你并沒有把他所做的事看作理所當然，他所付出的時間和努力是值得的。

“你真好?！蹦憧芍?，這句話能讓他愉快一整天嗎？既然你知道令愛人感受褒獎是很不錯的，那么，你就應(yīng)盡可能地這樣對他說。這樣做還有一個好處，就是他也會頻繁地贊賞你。專家們認為，贊賞是條雙向街，所以，夫妻間的這種互贊效應(yīng)也就不足為奇了。你對愛人稱贊得越多，你獲得的贊揚也就越多。通常，夫妻彼此都會認為對方有多么多么好，只是沒在言語上表達出來，因為沒養(yǎng)成這種習慣。但只要其中一方開了口，另一方便會領(lǐng)會其意，如此效法。

“我愛你”的全新表達法。把“我愛你”稍加改動，變成“每天愛你多一點”，能使夫妻的感情生活大有改觀。一遍遍地重復“我愛你”，愛人可能就會對此不以為然了。不僅如此，一種新的表達能讓夫妻關(guān)系時刻都有新鮮感。比如，要表達對他的愛意，你可以這樣說：“我真高興我的生命中有你?！蔽掖_信，他定會深深地感動。于是，兩顆心更近了。

Practising&Exercise　實戰(zhàn)提升篇

核心單詞

appreciate[?'pri：?ieit]v.欣賞；感謝，感激

spouse[spauz]n.配偶

bonus['b?un?s]n.獎金；額外津貼；特別補助；額外令人高興的事

verbaIize['v?：b?laiz]v.以言語表述；嘮叨

cue[kju：]n.提示；信號；線索

discount[dis'kaunt]v.不理會；不重視

impress[im'pres]v.給……極深的印象；使感動；使銘記

實用句型

But thanking each other is a good habit to faII into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of Iove.

夫妻間時而會忘記彼此道謝，但這是一個良好的習慣，在愛的成長路途中是不可缺少的。

①動名詞thanking在這里做主語。

②fall into形成。類似的表達還有fall off（數(shù)量）減少；fall out發(fā)生；fall down失敗。

翻譯練習

1.朋友們偶爾聚會，暢談學生時代的美好時光。（now and then）

2.有些人常常將謠言信以為真。（take……for granted）

3.像兔和鹿這樣的動物，整個冬天都是很活躍的，它們到處尋找食物。（such as）