吸引他人的6個(gè)秘密

吸引他人的6個(gè)秘密

You don’t need to spend money to buy likes or follows on Facebook, you can totally turn into a 'magnet' that attract friends.

你不需要花錢(qián)在Facebook上購(gòu)買“贊”或“關(guān)注”，你完全可以變成一個(gè)吸引朋友的“磁鐵”。

The art of listening

傾聽(tīng)的藝術(shù)

Good communication with people around you is considered a special skill. You can hardly make the other person feel good if you talk too much or exaggerate. The conversation will also feel forced and boring if the content is dry and reluctant.

與你周圍的人良好的溝通被認(rèn)為是一項(xiàng)特殊的技能。如果你說(shuō)得太多或夸大其詞，你很難讓別人感覺(jué)良好。如果內(nèi)容枯燥、不情愿，談話也會(huì)感到強(qiáng)迫和無(wú)聊。

When talking, pay attention to listen, look into the eyes of the opposite person. Remember to choose a good time when you can give a reasonable opinion. Talking is not a contest or debate, so it is necessary to avoid argument.

說(shuō)話的時(shí)候，注意聽(tīng)，看著對(duì)方的眼睛。記住要選擇一個(gè)合適的時(shí)機(jī)，你可以給出一個(gè)合理的意見(jiàn)。說(shuō)話不是一場(chǎng)比賽或辯論，所以有必要避免爭(zhēng)論。

You should choose topics that are soothing to your daily life, limit professional topics and sensitive issues.

你應(yīng)該選擇對(duì)你的日常生活有益的話題，限制專業(yè)話題和敏感話題。

Make a good first impression

給人留下良好的第一印象

The first impressions are often very deep and directly affect many later issues. So, if you want to attract the other person, try to give them a good impression in the first meeting. A few tips for the first meeting include:

第一印象往往非常深刻，直接影響到后來(lái)的許多問(wèn)題。所以，如果你想吸引對(duì)方，試著在第一次見(jiàn)面時(shí)給他們一個(gè)好印象。第一次見(jiàn)面的一些建議包括:

- Prepare a good outfit that express your personality the most. However, do not "overdo" it with unusual clothes.

準(zhǔn)備一套最能體現(xiàn)你個(gè)性的服裝。但是，不要用不尋常的衣服顯得“過(guò)分”。

- Take 1 minute to briefly introduce yourself (prioritize the good points first!).

- 花一分鐘時(shí)間簡(jiǎn)單介紹自己(把優(yōu)點(diǎn)排在第一位!)

- Always smile and look directly into the eyes of the opposite person when talking to express friendliness, sincerity and respect.

-說(shuō)話時(shí)要微笑，直視對(duì)方的眼睛，以表示友好、真誠(chéng)和尊重。

Have your own opinion

有你自己的觀點(diǎn)

People always believe in someone who is assertive and clearly oriented in all matters, big or small. Therefore, avoid indecision. In many situations, you will score points in the eyes of many people if you boldly present your ideas.

人們總是相信那些在大大小小的事情上有主見(jiàn)和明確方向的人。因此,避免猶豫不決。在很多情況下，如果你大膽地表達(dá)你的想法，你會(huì)在很多人的眼中加分。

If you can't make a decision right away, don't be afraid to tell people: “I haven't made a decision on this yet, but I'll give you the answers on ... (specific time).”

如果你不能馬上做出決定，不要害怕告訴別人:“關(guān)于這個(gè)我還沒(méi)有決定，但是我會(huì)告訴你關(guān)于……的答案。”(具體時(shí)間)”。

A definite statement will remind many people of you because they need to see how you deliver on your promise.

一個(gè)明確的陳述會(huì)提醒很多人，因?yàn)樗麄冃枰吹侥闶侨绾蝺冬F(xiàn)你的承諾的。

Enrich your knowledge

豐富你的知識(shí)

There is no need to become an "encyclopedia", but you will always be the center of conversations if you understand a lot of issues. At times when the debate is at its peak, a knowledgeable person's voice is always valued and respected.

沒(méi)有必要成為一個(gè)“百科全書(shū)”，但如果你理解很多問(wèn)題，你將永遠(yuǎn)是對(duì)話的中心。在辯論最激烈的時(shí)候，一個(gè)有知識(shí)的人的聲音總是受到重視和尊重。

However, in order to gain broad knowledge, you must accumulate it from many sources of information. Keeping the habit of reading books and newspapers regularly, updating current situations, looking for information on the internet, watching movies... will help you gain valuable knowledge.

然而，為了獲得廣泛的知識(shí)，你必須從許多信息來(lái)源積累它。養(yǎng)成定期讀報(bào)、更新時(shí)事、上網(wǎng)、看電影的習(xí)慣……將幫助你獲得有價(jià)值的知識(shí)。

You also need to be skillful in using the knowledge you know in the right place at the right time.

你還需要在正確的地點(diǎn)、正確的時(shí)間熟練地使用你所知道的知識(shí)。

Have a sense of humor

有幽默感

People with a sense of humor are often the leader of all the fun, easily attracting friends. Making the other people laugh will help relieve a lot of pressure and create good relationships, helping you quickly win the hearts and trust of people.

有幽默感的人往往是所有樂(lè)趣的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者，很容易吸引朋友。讓別人笑會(huì)幫助你緩解壓力，建立良好的人際關(guān)系，幫助你迅速贏得別人的心和信任。

Humor is an innate ability but don't be sad if you don't have it! You can still learn from experience, from friends, Facebook ... to gradually "elevate" your sense of humor to become more special.

幽默是一種天生的能力，但是如果你沒(méi)有它也不要難過(guò)。你仍然可以從經(jīng)驗(yàn)、朋友、Facebook上學(xué)習(xí)……逐漸“提升”你的幽默感，讓它變得更特別。

A joke, a witty way of saying, being able to always look at the problem in a positive and optimistic way… will not only bring joy to others but also to yourself!

一個(gè)笑話，一種詼諧的說(shuō)法，能夠總是以積極樂(lè)觀的方式看待問(wèn)題，不僅會(huì)給別人帶來(lái)快樂(lè)，也會(huì)給自己帶來(lái)快樂(lè)!

Show some talents

展示一些才華

Assuming you are participating in a conversation lasting for hours, and everyone's mind falls into a state of stress, this is when your talent will surely conquer at least one guy or girl.

假設(shè)你參加了一場(chǎng)持續(xù)數(shù)小時(shí)的談話，每個(gè)人的大腦都陷入了壓力狀態(tài)，這時(shí)你的才能肯定會(huì)征服至少一個(gè)男孩或女孩。

Singing, doing magic, playing guitar… These talents you can completely train yourself. The feeling of attracting many people to listen and the admiring gaze towards you will be great!

唱歌、魔術(shù)、彈吉他……這些才能你可以完全訓(xùn)練自己。吸引許多人傾聽(tīng)的感覺(jué)和贊賞的目光對(duì)你將是很有利的!