人難免會有不在狀態(tài)的時(shí)候:醒來時(shí)心情不好、對陌生人皺眉、因交通擁堵而沮喪。當(dāng)然,偶爾不在狀態(tài)并沒有關(guān)系。但如果這種暴躁的行為總是重復(fù)發(fā)生,持續(xù)幾周或幾個(gè)月,那這很有可能是你充滿負(fù)能量的跡象。
Having a long-term negative outlook on life can creep up on you without your realizing it, and it's likely an indicator that you may need to make a larger life change-a new job, new relationship, or at least a new hobby. The thing is, people with negative outlooks aren't exactly the type of people that would recognize such behavior in themselves. To that end, here are signs you might be negative.
對生活持長期負(fù)面看法會潛移默化的影響你,也可能表明你需要做出更大的生活改變--找份新工作、談一段新戀情,或者至少培養(yǎng)新的興趣。問題是,持消極看法的人并不是那種本身會承認(rèn)自己有此種行為的人。所以,我們整理了一些跡象,表明你可能充滿負(fù)能量。
1. You only have one perspective: your own.
1. 你只有一種觀點(diǎn):你自己的觀點(diǎn)。
A good sign you are too negative is that every comment you hear gets mentally run througha filter in which you ask, "what's that say about me?"
充滿負(fù)能量的一種表現(xiàn)為:每聽到一句話都會自行過濾,并自問"那句話和我有什么聯(lián)系?"
Erin Wathen, of EW Wellness Solutions, gives this example: "The summer college intern makes an innocent comment about the morning commute being a nightmare this morning. You snap at them, because in your mind, you have been commuting into the city longer than they have been alive, and they have no idea what is truly work, or what it feels like to have to makeup for lost time due to traffic."
EW Wellness Solutions機(jī)構(gòu)的艾琳·瓦特恩(Erin Wathen)舉了一個(gè)例子:"暑期大學(xué)實(shí)習(xí)生聊天的時(shí)候說到了今天早晨的交通簡直就是一場噩夢。你呵斥了他們,因?yàn)槟阌X得,你每天上下班的時(shí)間比他們活著的時(shí)間都長,他們根本不知道什么才是真正的工作,也不知道由于交通擁堵而不得不加班加點(diǎn)是什么滋味。"
2. Social media stresses you out.
2. 社交媒體讓你倍感壓力。
If hopping on Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, or Instagram and seeing the good times others are having makes your blood temperature-you find yourself wanting to comment, "must be nice" below your friends' vacation photos-you might be a bit too negative. Wathen emphasizes that social media can stress out a negative person, who views things in extremes, assuming that others are enjoying life more than they are.
如果你不停的在臉書、推特、閱后即焚或Ins上切換,看到他人十分享受的狀態(tài)讓你血液沸騰--你想評論,在朋友度假的照片底部評論"肯定很贊"--那這可能表明你充滿負(fù)能量。瓦特恩強(qiáng)調(diào),社交媒體會讓負(fù)能量的人倍感壓力,他們看待事物的角度很極端,認(rèn)為其他人比他們更會享受生活。
"No one has a perfect Instagram Story life, so when we believe the parts that make us view our own lives, friends and family as not cool, fun or posh enough we diminish what is front of us," she says.
"在Ins上,沒有人的生活是完美的,所以當(dāng)我們覺得自己的生活、朋友和家人一點(diǎn)都不酷、沒有趣或沒有錢的時(shí)候,我們會看低周邊的一切,"她說道。