研究：女性是最難相處的家庭成員

如果你覺(jué)得自己的老婆或老媽很難相處，那么不是你的老婆和老媽或者你自己有問(wèn)題，因?yàn)榇蠖鄶?shù)人都是這么想的。調(diào)查發(fā)現(xiàn)，人們普遍認(rèn)為，女性家庭成員是最難相處的，但是，這完全是因?yàn)樗齻儗?duì)這個(gè)家投入了太多感情。雖然你不得不忍受她們的嘮叨和牢騷，但是你必須承認(rèn)，她們也是你最依賴的人。

Researchers at the University of California, Berkeley and Bar-Ilan University in Israel have discovered an inconvenient truth about our female family members.

美國(guó)加州大學(xué)伯克利分校和以色列巴伊蘭大學(xué)的研究人員發(fā)現(xiàn)了一個(gè)和女性家庭成員有關(guān)的難以忽視的真相。

Wives, sisters and mothers are more likely to be the most difficult people in our lives, according to a survey of 1,100 respondents who described more than 12,000 relationships.

調(diào)查顯示，妻子、姐妹和母親是我們生活中最難相處的人。在這項(xiàng)調(diào)查中，1100名受訪者描述了超12000段感情關(guān)系。

Women may be guilty of doing the lion's share of whining, nagging and controlling in relationships, but the study noted that it's for a good reason.

也許在感情關(guān)系中抱怨、嘮叨、管東管西的基本都是女人，但是研究也指出，女人的這種表現(xiàn)是情有可原的。

Female family members were most often labeled as difficult because they're usually emotionally invested in relatives' lives.

很多時(shí)候，女性家庭成員都被貼上難以相處的標(biāo)簽，因?yàn)樗齻兺鶎?duì)親人的生活投入了很多感情。

The respondents included people ranging in age from their early 20s to their 70s, all of which were San Francisco Bay Area residents. More than half of respondents were female.

受訪者的年齡跨度從20出頭到70多歲，他們都居住在舊金山港灣區(qū)。超半數(shù)受訪者為女性。

'The message here is that, with female relatives, it can be a two-sided thing,' said Claude Fischer, a senior author of the study.

該研究的一名資深作者克勞德•費(fèi)舍爾說(shuō)：“這一研究報(bào)告要傳達(dá)的信息是，女性親人所帶來(lái)的影響是兩面性的。”

'They may be the people you most depend on, but also the people who nag you the most.'

“她們也許是你最依賴的人，但也是最愛(ài)嘮叨你的人。”

'It's a testament to their deeper engagement in social ties,' Fischer added.

費(fèi)舍爾補(bǔ)充說(shuō)：“這些嘮叨證明了她們?cè)谏鐣?huì)關(guān)系中的深入?yún)⑴c。”

Overall, respondents said they considered about 15% of their relationships to be difficult.

總體來(lái)說(shuō)，受訪者稱，他們認(rèn)為自己大概有15%的感情關(guān)系是困難的。

Siblings, spouses, aging parents and colleagues were also lumped into the 'difficult' category, though next of kin were considered more annoying.

姐妹、配偶、年邁的父母和同事也被歸入“困難”一類，其中最近的血親更難以相處。

Friends, meanwhile, were least likely to be difficult, accounting for roughly 7% of respondents 'annoying' relationships.

與此同時(shí)，朋友是最好相處的，只有約7%的受訪者將朋友歸入“煩人”一類。

'The results suggest that difficult people are likely to be found in contexts where people have less freedom to pick and choose their associates,' said Shira Offer, the author of the study.

該研究的作者希拉•歐弗爾說(shuō)：“結(jié)果顯示，難以相處的人通常都是那些人們沒(méi)有太多選擇自由、不得不在一起的人。”

The data was collected as part of a wide-ranging study, called the University of California Social Networks Study, launched in 2015, which aims to look at how people's social connections affect their health and happiness.

采集的數(shù)據(jù)將被用于一個(gè)名為“加州大學(xué)社會(huì)網(wǎng)絡(luò)研究”的大范圍研究，該研究于2015年發(fā)起，目的是觀察人們的社會(huì)關(guān)系是如何影響他們的健康和幸福的。

Researchers involved in the Social Networks Study found that social ties can be as stressful as they are joyful.

參加社會(huì)網(wǎng)絡(luò)研究的研究人員發(fā)現(xiàn)，社會(huì)關(guān)系可以壓力和快樂(lè)并存。

In particular, older people were more likely consider relationships with co-workers or acquaintances as difficult.

研究人員還發(fā)現(xiàn)，年長(zhǎng)的人更可能會(huì)覺(jué)得與同事或熟人的關(guān)系難以相處。

'Whether it's an alcoholic father whom you want to cut ties with, an annoying friend with whom you have a long history or an overbearing boss, relationships are complicated and in many cases unavoidable,' Fischer said.

費(fèi)舍爾說(shuō)：“無(wú)論是你想斷絕關(guān)系的酗酒的父親，還是你有多年交情的討厭的朋友，或者盛氣凌人的老板，人際關(guān)系是復(fù)雜的，而且在很多情況下都是不可避免的。”