聽(tīng)超級(jí)富豪的前妻講成功之道

Elon Musk’s Ex-Wife on What It Takes to Be a Mogul

聽(tīng)超級(jí)富豪的前妻講成功之道

For advice on how to be a mogul, take it from someone who has been married to one.

想得到怎么才能成為大人物的建議，問(wèn)問(wèn)和他們結(jié)過(guò)婚的人吧。

A user of Quora, a user-generated question-and-answer website, recently posed the question: “How can I be as great as Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk, Richard Branson?”

前不久，一名Quora用戶提出了一個(gè)問(wèn)題：“我怎么才能像比爾·蓋茨(Bill Gates)、史蒂夫·喬布斯(Steve Jobs)、埃隆·馬斯克(Elon Musk)、理查德·布蘭森(Richard Branson)那么牛?”

An unlikely individual responded, quietly offering some telling insights that have created a bit of a stir among the mogul-cognoscenti and beyond.

一個(gè)令人難以想象的人回答了這個(gè)問(wèn)題，悄悄給出了一些能揭示真相的見(jiàn)解。這番話產(chǎn)生的影響，不僅限于那些熟知大亨掌故的人當(dāng)中。

The individual is Mr. Musk’s former wife, Justine Musk, who was married to the Tesla and Space X chief from 2000 to 2008.

這個(gè)人就是埃隆的前妻賈斯汀·馬斯克(Justine Musk)。她與特斯拉(Tesla)和Space X公司的老板埃隆·馬斯克的婚姻開(kāi)始于2000年，結(jié)束于2008年。

Having lived with the real-life Tony Stark (a.k.a. Iron Man), Ms. Musk, an author, had a ringside view of one of the world’s most successful entrepreneurs and businessmen — and his network of similarly booming pals.

與現(xiàn)實(shí)版的托尼·斯塔克(Tony Stark)——又名鋼鐵俠(Iron Man)——共同生活過(guò)的賈斯汀是一位作家。她近距離觀察過(guò)自己那個(gè)名列全世界最成功商人和企業(yè)家之中的前夫，以及他結(jié)交的那些名頭同樣響亮的好友。

It is a world with tightly closed ranks. And honest insights about what makes the most successful tick are hard to come by. Usually a parade of academics and other writers comment on the qualities of successful people, trying to speculate about and divine what led to their achievements. Or the moguls themselves wax on with less-than-introspective platitudes about themselves. But Ms. Musk has a unique perspective.

那是一個(gè)很難進(jìn)入的世界。要想如實(shí)地了解如何取得成功，并沒(méi)有那么容易。通常，會(huì)有一眾學(xué)者和其他作家，對(duì)成功人士的品質(zhì)發(fā)表評(píng)論，試圖推測(cè)并預(yù)言是什么促使他們?nèi)〉昧艘延械某删?。或者大人物們自己，用?shí)在稱不上是反省的陳詞濫調(diào)談?wù)撟约?。但賈斯汀卻有一個(gè)獨(dú)特的視角。

That’s why it was so unusual to see her name pop up in response to the Quora user’s question. Ms. Musk said by phone on Monday that she sat down at her computer one night this month and came across the question. “I was procrastinating,” she said. But the question “tapped into something I was musing about for a while.” She said she had read a lot about success but wanted to share “things people weren’t saying.” What followed were several posts over the last few weeks.

也正因?yàn)槿绱?，看到她的名字跳出?lái)，回答那名Quora用戶的問(wèn)題，就顯得極為不同尋常。賈斯汀周一在電話上說(shuō)，本月的一天晚上，她坐在電腦前，無(wú)意中看到了這個(gè)問(wèn)題。“我拖拉了一段時(shí)間，”她說(shuō)。但那個(gè)問(wèn)題“牽扯到了我自己思索過(guò)一陣子的事情”。她表示自己讀過(guò)大量有關(guān)成功的東西，但想分享一些 “人們沒(méi)有說(shuō)到的東西”。于是，在過(guò)去幾周里，她發(fā)表了幾篇帖子。

“Extreme success results from an extreme personality and comes at the cost of many other things,” Ms. Musk wrote. “Extreme success is different from what I suppose you could just consider ‘success.’ These people tend to be freaks and misfits who were forced to experience the world in an unusually challenging way,” she added, noting, “Other people consider them to be somewhat insane.”

“極度的成功源自極端的個(gè)性，并且是以其他很多東西為代價(jià)的，”賈斯汀寫(xiě)道。“極度的成功和你所認(rèn)為的‘成功’有所不同。這些人往往是怪胎，與社會(huì)格格不入，曾被迫以一種特別具有挑戰(zhàn)性的方式體驗(yàn)這個(gè)世界，”她接著說(shuō)，“其他人會(huì)認(rèn)為他們有些發(fā)瘋了。”

She boiled down the one ingredient for extreme success: “Be obsessed. Be obsessed. Be obsessed.”

她將極度的成功歸結(jié)為一個(gè)因素：“執(zhí)著。執(zhí)著。執(zhí)著。”

But Ms. Musk wasn’t being critical. “Extreme people combine brilliance and talent with an *insane* work ethic,” she wrote, “so if the work itself doesn’t drive you, you will burn out or fall by the wayside or your extreme competitors will crush you and make you cry.”

但賈斯汀并不是在批評(píng)。“極端的人會(huì)將才華和天賦與一種*瘋狂的*工作熱情結(jié)合起來(lái)，”她寫(xiě)道。“所以如果工作本身不能給你動(dòng)力，你就會(huì)感到精疲力盡或中途放棄，或是讓極端的競(jìng)爭(zhēng)對(duì)手將你壓倒，讓你哭泣。”

She seems to suggest that the most successful businesspeople did not start out looking to become billionaires but did so simply as a byproduct of their maniacal focus. “Shift your focus away from what you want (a billion dollars) and get deeply, intensely curious about what the world wants and needs,” Ms. Musk wrote. “It helps to have an ego, but you must be in service to something bigger if you are to inspire the people you need to help you.”

她似乎在說(shuō)，最成功的那些商人，開(kāi)始起步時(shí)并沒(méi)期望成為億萬(wàn)富翁，成為巨富只是他們瘋狂專注的副產(chǎn)品。“把注意力從你想要的東西(比如10億美元)上轉(zhuǎn)移開(kāi)，對(duì)這個(gè)世界想要什么、需要什么保持深深的、強(qiáng)烈的好奇心，”賈斯汀寫(xiě)道。“這有助于讓你自信起來(lái)，但要想鼓動(dòng)那些你需要的人來(lái)幫助你，就必須服務(wù)于更偉大的東西。”

In another post, however, she did address how money — billionaire money — is thought about. “Money is rarely just money,” she wrote. “Sometimes it stands in for love or self-esteem or freedom or a sense of control over your destiny (especially if you lacked these things in childhood).”

但在另一篇帖子中，她的確談到了錢，億萬(wàn)富翁對(duì)錢的看法。“絕大多數(shù)時(shí)候錢不僅僅是錢，”她寫(xiě)道。“有時(shí)候，它代表著愛(ài)、自尊、自由或?qū)ψ约好\(yùn)的掌控感(特別是你的童年缺少這些東西時(shí))。”

“Sometimes it is a way of controlling others, including family members, because you don’t know how to connect to them in any other way,” she added. “Money can also serve as a scorecard to indicate how well you are doing, the impact you are having, if you are winning. Sometimes it’s not so much the money that matters, but the win is everything — particularly when you are invested heart and soul in your mission.”

“有時(shí)候它是一種控制其他人，包括家人的方式，因?yàn)槟愠酥?，再也不知道該以怎樣的方式同他們?lián)系起來(lái)，”她接著寫(xiě)道。“錢也可以充當(dāng)記分牌，顯示你過(guò)得有多好、有多大的影響力，是不是贏了。有時(shí)候，重要的倒不是錢，獲勝才是一切，特別是當(dāng)你全身心投入到自己的使命中去的時(shí)候。”

Ms. Musk said the reaction to her posting was a surprise: “I had no idea it would blow up the way it did.” She has received hundreds of comments and many emails. Of course, most readers following Ms. Musk’s musings have been looking for hints about Mr. Musk himself.

賈斯汀表示，她的帖子引發(fā)的反應(yīng)令人吃驚：“我不知道會(huì)引起這么大反應(yīng)。”她收到了數(shù)百條評(píng)論，還有很多電子郵件。當(dāng)然，關(guān)注賈斯汀的帖子的大部分讀者，一直在尋找有關(guān)埃隆的線索。

She insisted that “I wasn’t specifically talking about Elon” and said she was “uneasy” that people might be reading too much into her words. Still, she said that “Elon is a fascinating character.”

她堅(jiān)稱“我不是特指埃隆”，并表示想到人們可能會(huì)對(duì)自己的話做過(guò)多解讀，就會(huì)感到“不安”。但她說(shuō)，“埃隆是一個(gè)令人著迷的人。”

Ms. Musk called herself a “watcher,” not an “insider,” saying, “I’ve been on the edge of it for a long time.” She said she had been inundated with emails about her answers and about Mr. Musk. One asked, “Does Elon have any hobbies?” No, she said. His job is his hobby. “The nature of these things is so all consuming. Unless you see that up close it is hard to understand,” she said, adding that “ ‘obsession’ has a bad rap.”

賈斯汀自稱“觀察者”，而非“局內(nèi)人”，她說(shuō)“我近距離觀察了很長(zhǎng)時(shí)間”。她說(shuō)自己被關(guān)于那些回答，以及埃隆本人的電子郵件淹沒(méi)了。一個(gè)人問(wèn)，“埃隆有什么愛(ài)好嗎?”她說(shuō)沒(méi)有。工作就是他的愛(ài)好。“這些東西的本質(zhì)非常令人著迷。除非那么近距離地看到過(guò)，否則難以理解，”她接著說(shuō)，“不過(guò)‘執(zhí)迷’這個(gè)詞給人負(fù)面印象。”