什么是真愛(ài) ？

True love is magical. True love is mystical?Right? Well, kind of. But it’s more than that, as anyone in a relationship can tell you. Read on to find ten things you need to know about true love.

真愛(ài)是神奇的。真愛(ài)是神秘的--對(duì)么?只對(duì)了一部分。遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)不止這些，任何陷入愛(ài)河里的人們都可以給你答案。一起看看真愛(ài)的十個(gè)事實(shí)吧。

1. True love is not about finding yourself in another

真愛(ài)不是迷失自己

Don’t fall in love, or think you’re in love, just because you want to find yourself. Your identity is not to be someone’s other half?it’s to be yourself! Don’t get so swept up in your partner that you become them. You don’t need to be the number one fan of their favorite band or read all the books they read. Keep your interests and hobbies and you’ll be more interesting to, and interested in, your partner.

不要因?yàn)橄胝伊硪粋€(gè)自己就陷入，或認(rèn)為自己陷入愛(ài)河。你不是要做別人的另一半--而是要做你自己。不要一味迎合另一半把自己變得像他們那般。你不要是他們最愛(ài)樂(lè)隊(duì)的頭號(hào)粉絲，也不需要去讀他們讀過(guò)的所有書(shū)籍。保持自己的興趣愛(ài)好，你會(huì)對(duì)另一半更有興趣，自身也會(huì)更有吸引力。

2. Self love is the best way to find true love

想愛(ài)人，先愛(ài)自己

It sounds like a cliche, something your mom and girlfriends told you every time you were crying over a broken heart, but it’s true?you must love yourself before you can love anyone else. Be comfortable with yourself, even when you’re having a bad day. Know who you really are, deep down inside, and know what you want to do with your life. Being in love with yourself and having your life on track are not only incredibly self-satisfying, they’re really attractive qualities to a partner.

這聽(tīng)起來(lái)有點(diǎn)老生常談，每次分手媽媽或閨蜜們都會(huì)這么告訴你，但這的確是真的-你必須先愛(ài)別人才能知道愛(ài)自己。讓自己快樂(lè)開(kāi)心，哪怕今天過(guò)得很遭。知道自己的真實(shí)面目，發(fā)掘內(nèi)心，看看你到底想干些什么。愛(ài)上自己，快樂(lè)的生活，這不僅會(huì)讓你十分幸福，還能真的吸引到另一半的關(guān)注哦。

3. True love is not demanding

真愛(ài)不是索取

Your partner should never ask you to change if you’re truly loved. And if you truly love your partner, you shouldn’t expect him to change. You got into a relationship because you liked each other, and you grew to love each other as you are. Why would you need to change someone you love so deeply? Accept them as they are, and you’ll get that consideration in return.

如果真的愛(ài)你，他絕對(duì)不會(huì)要求你去改變。如果你真的愛(ài)他，也不應(yīng)該希望他去改變。你們能在一起是因?yàn)榛ハ嘞矚g，正因?yàn)槟闶悄悖p方才會(huì)愛(ài)上。為什么要改變你深愛(ài)的人呢?接受他們，同樣的，他們也不會(huì)再去要求你改變。

4. True love allows you to be yourself

真愛(ài)就是做你自己

Being yourself in front of your partner can seem scary at first. Waking up without any makeup on, and your hair a mess? What about him seeing you when you’re sick?runny nose, bloodshot eyes and all. It’s something you want to avoid as long as you can. But you shouldn’t feel that way. When you’re in love, even the worst illness is a beautiful experience because it’s worth it. Your partner helping you through a messy episode or kissing you with morning breath is a major step towards your future, and it shows how much he truly loves you.

剛開(kāi)始在另一半面前做自己好像有點(diǎn)恐怖。頭發(fā)亂糟糟沒(méi)有化妝就起床?他要是看到你感冒的紅鼻子，充滿血絲的眼睛會(huì)有何感想?這些都是你想盡可能避免的情況。但其實(shí)不能那樣想。在一起時(shí)，即使生病也是美好的體驗(yàn)，絕對(duì)值得。他幫你度過(guò)亂糟糟的清晨，或是牙也不刷就吻你，本身就是好的預(yù)兆，也能表現(xiàn)出他到底有多愛(ài)你。

5. True love comes naturally

真愛(ài)都是自然而然來(lái)的

Do you have doubts about your partner? Are you not sure they’re right for you? If you’re asking yourself too many questions about your partner, your relationship, and your future together, then you’re probably not in love. When you’re truly in love, you don’t question anything. It feels natural to be with your partner, and you know you can work through anything to achieve that future you’re dreaming of.

你對(duì)另一半有疑問(wèn)么?是不是不確定到底他們是不是那個(gè)對(duì)的人?如果你總是對(duì)另一半，這段關(guān)系或者你們的未來(lái)有這些疑問(wèn)，那么有可能你不愛(ài)他。真正愛(ài)的時(shí)候，你不會(huì)懷疑任何事情。好像跟他在一起是如此自然，你知道和他在一起能迎來(lái)一直夢(mèng)想的那個(gè)未來(lái)。

6. To get love, you must give love

想獲得愛(ài)，先施與愛(ài)

You can’t be in a loving relationship if you hold back. You can’t use love as a bargaining chip. Don’t tell your partner you love him only when he does something good around the house. Don’t give him the cold shoulder if he makes a mistake. You have to love him all the time, regardless of his words or actions, because true love is unconditional. If you give your partner this much love, you’ll get it?and more!?in return.

吝嗇的人是無(wú)法開(kāi)展一段關(guān)系的。你不能把愛(ài)當(dāng)成是討價(jià)還價(jià)的籌碼。不要跟他說(shuō)除非他做了什么事你才會(huì)愛(ài)他。不要在他犯錯(cuò)時(shí)冷眼相待。你要一如既往的愛(ài)他，不管他說(shuō)了什么做了什么，真愛(ài)是無(wú)條件的。如果你對(duì)他付出了這些，那么你肯定會(huì)得到更多作為回報(bào)。

7. True love is based on friendship

真愛(ài)基于友誼

So many TV show relationships are based on friends who fall in love over time. It’s a great premise, and a nice daydream, but life isn’t TV. You don’t need to be best friends with your partner since kindergarten for love to last. But you need to be friends with your partner. You need to be able to talk, to share jokes, and to enjoy each others’ company. Over time, the physical passion may fade, but true friendship will last forever.

很多電視劇里愛(ài)情都是從朋友間產(chǎn)生的。這個(gè)起點(diǎn)很好，美好的白日夢(mèng)，畢竟生活不是電視劇。你不需要和他從幼兒園就是好朋友再一路走下去直到相愛(ài)。但你的確需要跟另一半成為朋友。你需要時(shí)刻和他交談，分享笑話，享受對(duì)方的陪伴。很多時(shí)候，身體激情也許會(huì)消退，但真正的友誼永流傳。

8. True love lasts

真愛(ài)持續(xù)久

Think back to those casual relationships where your significant other wiping his nose on your bath towel was enough to end it. Those relationships are immature, and whatever you thought you experienced wasn’t love. When you’re truly in love, problems like this are just small bumps in the road. No problem seems insurmountable. You’re more than willing to work through anything, just to stay together.

想想那些因?yàn)橛媚阆丛杳聿聊樉筒莶萁Y(jié)束的戀愛(ài)吧。這些都是不成熟的，你的想法和經(jīng)歷都不叫愛(ài)情。當(dāng)真正愛(ài)的時(shí)候，這些困難都只是小事而已。似乎沒(méi)有什么困難不可逾越。你更樂(lè)意兩個(gè)人一起，戰(zhàn)勝一切。

9. True love is committed

真愛(ài)是堅(jiān)定的

It’s human nature to be attracted to other people, to allow your head to be turned by an attractive passerby. Don’t let this make you feel guilty. As long as you’re committed to your partner, your relationship is fine. When you’re truly in love, you don’t want to be with anyone else. You can’t imagine spending your time without your sweetheart.

被其他人吸引是人的本性。要允許自己為美麗的路人扭個(gè)頭看一眼。不用為此感到負(fù)罪。只要你對(duì)另一半是堅(jiān)定地，這段感情就很堅(jiān)定。真愛(ài)的時(shí)候，你不會(huì)想和其他人在一起。你無(wú)法忍受那些沒(méi)有他的時(shí)光。

10. YOU are the love of your life

你才是生活里的真愛(ài)

Don’t forget that you need to love yourself. Self love is important, but it’s not something you should achieve and then throw away once you’re with your partner. You must stay in love with yourself for your entire life. If you start to dislike yourself or what you’re doing, you need to change just enough to stay on track, to stay true to yourself, and to stay in love with yourself.

別忘了你也需要愛(ài)自己。自愛(ài)十分重要，哪怕有了另一半也不能忘記好好愛(ài)自己。你必須一生與自己相愛(ài)。如果你開(kāi)始討厭自己或是自己做的事情，你需要改變一下步入正軌，對(duì)自己坦白，也要與自己相愛(ài)。