是誰(shuí)偷走了中國(guó)人的幸福

丹麥人的幸福感源于平等;新加坡人的幸福感源于法律;印度加爾各答貧民窟的人的幸福感源于相互依靠彼此的心。

In Denmark, happiness comes from equality; in Singapore,happinesscomes from the rule of law; in the slums of Calcutta, India,happiness comes from the hearts of people that depends on eachother。

不難發(fā)現(xiàn)，一個(gè)人幸福與否，更多地取決于這兩個(gè)方面：一個(gè)是外部的，即我們居住的社會(huì)大環(huán)境;另一個(gè)是內(nèi)部的，即我們自己對(duì)待生活得態(tài)度。現(xiàn)在我們中國(guó)人感到不幸福，也可以分析為以下幾個(gè)方面。

It is not difficult to see, whether a personis happy or not,largely depends on two aspects. One is external, that is thesocialenvironment we live in; the other is internal, that is ourpersonalattitude to life. Today, we (Chinese people) are not happy,also can beanalyzed in several aspects。

1. Lack of faith (beliefs)

1. 缺乏信念。

Most people do not know what the expectationsare in one’s wholelife, simply put it, you do not know what you want.Confucius atecoarse rice, drank water, didn’t even have pillows when sleepingandused his arms as pillows, but Confucius said, “Happiness iswithin”; Hesaid, “A basket of cooked rice, a ladle of water, livingin the ghetto alley”，others might think this is an unbearable life,but Confucius was able to “keephis happiness”. Why? Because he knewwhat he is pursuing in this life。

許多人都不知道他人生中最期待的是什么，僅僅放下，你不知道你想要什么?？鬃映圆诿缀人?，甚至睡覺都沒有枕頭，而僅僅以手臂為枕，但孔夫子說，“樂亦在其中矣”;他說：“飯疏食，飲水，曲肱而枕之”，其他人可能認(rèn)為這是不能忍受的生活，但孔子卻能“保持幸福”。為什么呢?因?yàn)樗浪非蟮木褪沁@種生活。

2. Always comparing

2. 老是比較。

Western saying goes, Whether a person isfortunate or not, happyor not, does not depend on how big of accomplishmenthe/she hasachieved, but from the way how the neighbors look at them. Whenwhatwe are pursuing is not happiness, but to be happier thanothers, then happinesswill be even further away from us。

西方諺語(yǔ)說，一個(gè)人是否幸運(yùn)，是否快樂，不取決于他取得了多大的成就，而是他的鄰居怎么看他。一旦我們追求的不是如何幸福，而是怎么比別人幸福時(shí)，幸福反而會(huì)更加遠(yuǎn)離我們。

3. Living in happiness without realizing it

3. 生在福中不知福。

If a light has been constantly lit, you willnot pay attention toit, but if it is brighter and darker at times, or if it ison andoff at times, you will notice. Similarly, sometimes we are enviedbyothers, but we hardly notice it. Only if one day we loss that,then we willrealize。

如果燈被點(diǎn)亮，你就不會(huì)去注意它，如果它時(shí)亮?xí)r暗或者時(shí)關(guān)時(shí)開，你就會(huì)注意到它。同樣道理，有時(shí)我們被別人艷羨，我們不大發(fā)覺。可一旦某天失去了，我們就會(huì)察覺。

4. Not moved by beautiful things

4. 缺乏發(fā)現(xiàn)美的眼睛。

“The spring wind is so selfless, not askingfor anything inreturn but blossomed millions of flowers。” We may not havetheability to create beauty, but have we been appreciating thebeauty of nature,or the beautiful things created by others? Weoften ignore and unaware of thenatural beauty, artistic beauty,spiritual beauty and many beautiful things inlife around us。

“春風(fēng)如此無(wú)私，不問索取，卻使得遍地花開。”我們可能不能創(chuàng)造美，但可以欣賞自然美，或者其他人創(chuàng)造的美。我們常常忽視或不了解自然之美、藝術(shù)之美，精神之美以及一切我們身邊美好的事物。

5. Do not know how to give

5. 不知奉獻(xiàn)。

Zhang Shangying from Song dynasty said,“Nothing is happier thanbeing happy of doing good deeds”， only a person whoknows how togive rather than just take can be truly happy. Charity is notaprivilege of the rich. Donating millions to disaster relief ischarity, give astranger a smile is also charity。

宋朝的張商英曾說，“沒有比做好事更快樂的了。”只有當(dāng)一個(gè)人懂得給予而不是一味索取的時(shí)候才會(huì)感到真正的快樂。慈善不是富人的特權(quán)。捐獻(xiàn)幾百萬(wàn)救災(zāi)是慈善，給陌生人個(gè)微笑也是慈善。

6. Not being content

6. 不知足。

How much does a person need to be satisfied?Never enough!

一個(gè)人什么時(shí)候才能滿足?永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)滿足。

When you are not happy because you don’t haveshoes, have younoticed those who do not have feet? Contentmentbringshappiness。

當(dāng)你不滿足是因?yàn)槟銢]有一雙鞋的時(shí)候，你注意到有些人沒有穿鞋的腳了嗎?知足常樂。

Harold Albert is the academic director of the University ofCalifornia. Once he walked on the streetfull of dissatisfaction andconfusion because he had already lost his job andwas looking fornew work. He walked in the road like a depressed person,completelylost confidence and courage。

HaroldAlbert是加州大學(xué)的教務(wù)處主任。有次，他曾滿懷不滿和困惑地走在街頭，因?yàn)樗麃G了工作，在找新的工作。他走在路上像個(gè)沮喪的人，失去了信心和勇氣。

Just then, a man with no legs came, sitting ona small woodenplatform which was attached with wheels from old skates. Hecarried2 pieces of wood and wheeled himself across the street。

就在這時(shí)，一個(gè)沒有腿的人經(jīng)過，坐在一個(gè)附著在舊溜冰輪子的木頭平板上，帶著兩片木頭，滑過街道。

When Harold saw him, he had just crossed thestreet, trying toraise himself a few inches to get on the pavement. Harold’seyes methis, the disabled man said happily, “Good morning! Sr. Nicemorningweather, is not it?” At the time Harold felt a strange senseof satisfaction.He thought, I have 2 legs, he has no legs, but heis so happy, what reason do Ihave to be upset? So Harold becamemore confident, and went on happily。

Harold發(fā)現(xiàn)了他，他剛穿過街，試著把自己舉高幾英寸以登上人行道。他們四目相對(duì)，那個(gè)殘疾人高興地說：“早上好!早上天氣真好，不是嗎?”這時(shí)Harold感到一種莫名的滿足。他想，他有兩條腿，而他卻沒有腿，但他仍然開心，他又有什么理由心煩呢?所以，Harold變得更加自信，快樂地生活著。

7. Anxiety is everywhere

7. 無(wú)處不焦慮。

Anxiety of safety, wealth, health and anxietyof children’seducation and employment… Only a person who is carefree canbehappy。

擔(dān)心安全、財(cái)富、健康，擔(dān)心孩子的教育問題和工作……只有當(dāng)一個(gè)人不焦慮時(shí)才能幸?？鞓贰?/p>

8. Too much pressure/stress

8. 壓力過大。

Political pressure, pressure from work,family, emotional stress,financial stress, interpersonal pressure,psychological pressure andphysical pressure

政治壓力，工作、家庭壓力，情緒上的壓力，經(jīng)濟(jì)壓力，人際關(guān)系壓力，心理和生理壓力。

9. Standards are too high

9. 標(biāo)準(zhǔn)太高。

Using person’s own standard to demand others“If I can, why can’tyou?”

用自己的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)去要求他人，“我能做到，為什么你不能?”

Using other’s standard to demand oneself, “Ifhe can, why can’tI?”

用他人的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)來(lái)要求自己，“他能做到，為什么我不能?”

10. Not being oneself

10. 不能做回自己。

A person who becomes a good son, a goodhusband, a good father, agood friend, a good partner… but if a person cannotbecome someonethat himself/herself desires, always fighting with oneself,thenthis person has no balance, and naturally, it is difficult forhim/her to betruly happy。

一個(gè)人能做到好兒子，好爸爸，好朋友，好伴侶，但是如果一個(gè)人不能做到他想做到的，老是和自己斗爭(zhēng)，那么他就平衡不了，自然很難讓他自己真正快樂起來(lái)。