英語(yǔ)美文朗讀 第337期 Ignore What Other People Think Of You(上)

10 reasons to ignore what other people think of you. It is human nature to want to be liked and accepted by others. We accept the status quo for what it is, because everyone around us does.

 

給你10個(gè)理由，讓你不要在乎別人對(duì)你的看法。想讓別人欣賞和接納自己，這是人的本性。我們安于現(xiàn)狀，因?yàn)樯磉叺娜艘策@樣。

 

We tip-toe our way through life by doing things in order to please others. Eventually, our actions, appearances, and lives become molded by how we think other people perceive us. But the truth is, what others think about us can often adversely impact the choices we make and the things we do. This desire to conform to the wishes of others can seriously conflict with our ability to lead independent and rich lives.

為了讓別人喜歡我們，我們活得小心翼翼。最終，他人對(duì)我們的看法，塑造了我們的行為，我們的外貌，我們的生活。然而，其實(shí)，他人對(duì)我們的看法，往往會(huì)對(duì)我們的決定和我們做的事情產(chǎn)生負(fù)面影響。既想迎合他人，又想追求獨(dú)立幸福的生活，這兩者本來(lái)就是互相矛盾的。

 

Number 1 - Your life is your business. How many times have you pondered over questions like: How are these clothes going to make me look? What will my colleagues think if I speak out? Are those people talking shit behind my back? If I take this job, what will my friends and family think of me? Look, People are entitled to think whatever they want. Just as you are entitled to think whatever you want! What people think of you cannot change who you are or what you are worth, unless you allow them to. This is your life to live. At the end of the day, you are the only person who needs to approve of your own choices. Well, unless of course if you're married. That's a whole other topic!

第一，你的生活你做主。你是不是經(jīng)常在想，我穿這個(gè)衣服看起來(lái)怎樣？如果我說(shuō)出自己的看法，同事們會(huì)怎么看我？那些人是不是在背后說(shuō)我的壞話？如果我選擇了這份工作，朋友和家人會(huì)怎么看我？別人怎么想，是別人的自由。同理，你怎么想，是你的自由。只要你的立場(chǎng)堅(jiān)定，那么，別人對(duì)你的看法就無(wú)法改變你，無(wú)法改變你的價(jià)值。這是你的生活，畢竟，真正需要認(rèn)可你的選擇的人，只有你自己。但要是你結(jié)了婚，那就是另外一回事了。

 

Number 2 - They don't know what's best for you. It's important to recognize that another person's opinion is often based on what they would do. This alone is the problem. What is best for somebody else, may not be the best for you. Nobody will ever be as invested in your life as you. So only you know what is best for you, and that entails learning from your own choices. The only way you will ever truly learn is through making your own decisions and taking full responsibility for them. This way, if you do fail, at least you can learn from it wholeheartedly, as opposed to blaming somebody else.

第二，別人不知道什么才是對(duì)你最好的。很重要的一點(diǎn)是，你要明白，他人的想法，來(lái)源于他們的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，這本身就是個(gè)問(wèn)題，因?yàn)閷?duì)別人而言最好的東西，對(duì)你而言不一定就是最好的。你為你的人生付出了最多的努力，所以你才知道什么是對(duì)你最好的，這就意味著你要從自己的選擇中吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)。你成長(zhǎng)的唯一途徑，就是自己做決定，并為這些決定負(fù)責(zé)。這樣，就算你失敗了，起碼你能真正從失敗中學(xué)到經(jīng)驗(yàn)，而不是去怪罪別人。

 

Number 3 - People's thoughts change. We all have an internal story that influences how we treat other people and what we think at any given moment. But, our thoughts, ideas and views change on a regular basis! This means, even if somebody does think badly of you at the moment, there is a good chance they will think differently in the near future. So basically, people's thoughts don't mean shit! And that's a pretty darn good reason to stop caring about what other people think!

第三，人們的想法會(huì)改變。我們?nèi)绾螌?duì)待他人，我們有什么想法，這與我們過(guò)往的經(jīng)歷有關(guān)。但是，我們的想法經(jīng)常會(huì)改變。這意味著，如果某個(gè)人不太喜歡你，很有可能他以后會(huì)改變主意。所以，別人的想法根本不重要，你根本不需要在乎別人怎么想。

 

Number 4 - You will be much happier. You'll find that when you start focusing on your own needs, you'll be spending more time doing things that make you happy. This self-awareness will make you a more rounded individual. It will allow you to better manage your time and give you space to have fun. As a result, you will actually improve the way that people perceive you – and this of course will make you even happier.

第四，你會(huì)更加快樂(lè)。當(dāng)你開(kāi)始專(zhuān)注于自己的需求時(shí)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，你會(huì)做更多可以讓自己開(kāi)心的事情，這種自我意識(shí)讓你變得更成熟，讓你合理安排自己的實(shí)踐，讓你能夠適當(dāng)放松娛樂(lè)。因此，別人對(duì)你的看法也會(huì)變得更積極，這會(huì)讓你更加快樂(lè)。

 

Number 5 - Your relationships will improve. Try putting yourself first, in more situations. This way, in relationships, you will have a much stronger base to explain what you will and won't do. The ability to set boundaries effectively will give you the ability to say no - and mean it. Instead of taking on every request, you'll only do the things that make you happy and this will give you more energy and a better reputation for being reliable. These things will make your relationships with other people much healthier in the long run.

第五，你的人際關(guān)系會(huì)改善。多嘗試把自己放在第一位，這樣，在人際關(guān)系中，你會(huì)有更多主動(dòng)權(quán)，你想做或不想做什么事，都是合理的。劃清邊界的能力會(huì)讓你能夠拒絕他人，而且說(shuō)到做到。與其答應(yīng)別人所有的請(qǐng)求，還不如只做那些能讓你開(kāi)心的事，這樣你會(huì)得到更多的能量，也會(huì)得到別人的稱(chēng)贊，因?yàn)樗麄冇X(jué)得你很靠譜。從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來(lái)看，這些事情會(huì)讓你的人際關(guān)系變得更健康。