Number 6 - Make a list. Make a list of the things you value, and then a list of ways you're going to make those things a priority. If you care more about your friend's feelings than you do about some temporary frustration, make your friend the priority. If you care more about living peacefully with your roommate than fighting over another dirty dish, prioritize that. Decide what matters most to you, and how you're going to resolve your issues. The best way to get over something is to simply start caring about something else more.
第六,列個清單。列一個清單,上面寫著你重視的事情。再列另外一個清單,上面寫著你要怎樣優(yōu)先處理這些重要的事情。如果你更在乎朋友的感受,而不是暫時的沮喪,那么就把前者。如果你更在乎與舍友之間的和睦,而不是為一個臟碟子大吵大鬧,那就把前者放在首位。你要自己決定,什么是最重要的,以及要如何處理你的問題。熬過一件事情的最佳方法,就是讓自己更加在乎另一件事。
Number 7 – Travel. Often people neglect travel only to buy a new TV, PS4, or whatever is the latest hot product on the market. But these are all things that will become obsolete in a few years and it's very unlikely that you will think back and say, "I remember those magical nights when I would play Call of Duty until 6 am". Travelling expands your horizons and creates lifelong memories. Visiting a new place can do wonders. This doesn't have to be a 2-month expedition through another continent. Even if it's a place just an hour away, that will do. Just spend a week or two somewhere else. Visiting a new place will change your outlook and it will always be exciting to look back on. It will definitely become one of the highlights of the year, believe me. You may even find an incredible new place, meet new people, and see some amazing architecture. And they will not only make great memories but you will have some great stories to tell.
第七,去旅行。通常,人們寧愿花錢買新電視,買游戲機,買市面上最新的產(chǎn)品,而忽視了旅行。但是,這些東西,幾年內(nèi)就會過時了。你不太可能說“通宵玩《使命召喚》的夜晚真是太難忘了”。旅行能幫你拓展視野,留下讓你懷念一輩子的回憶。去一個新的地方旅行,能夠為你帶來奇跡。這并不一定是去另一個大洲來一場兩個月的探險,就算是去一個兩小時車程之外的地方,也能有很好的效果。在另一個地方度過一兩周的實踐,就行了。相信我,這會成為你這一年的生活的閃光點。你可能會找到一個很奇妙的地方,遇見新的朋友,欣賞一些很棒的建筑。它們不僅成為了美好的回憶,還能讓你與別人分享美好的故事。
Number 8 - Surprise someone. Do something surprising and unbelievably kind for someone who will not expect it. Send flowers to a random friend, give them a gift card, or take someone you love out for a special dinner. Do something that is so generous you couldn't possibly do it regularly, a kind gesture that would make somebody else's year complete, knowing that somebody cared enough about them to do something at that level.
第八,為某個人制造驚喜。為一個人做一件令人驚喜的事,比如為一個朋友送花并附帶賀卡,或者帶你愛的人出去吃一頓特別的晚餐。這件事必須是很慷慨的,你不可能經(jīng)常做的那種事。一個充滿善意的舉動,能讓別人的一年變得更加完整,因為他們知道,有人很在乎他們,愿意為他們做這么美好的事。
Number 9 - Take somebody on a date. Things have changed a lot. Before the internet, people actually went out on dates. Yeah. Can you believe it? I'm talking about a time when you didn't just swipe a screen to have someone appear in your bed. Take someone out on a real date. Make a reservation at a restaurant and get tickets to a show. You will make the person feel special, because everybody knows that planning these things takes time, effort, and care.
第九,帶一個人去約會?,F(xiàn)在跟以前太不一樣了,在互聯(lián)網(wǎng)出現(xiàn)之前,人們是出門約會的,這是真的,你信嗎?現(xiàn)在,你在手機上劃兩下,第二天起床的時候,身邊就會躺著另外一個人,以前可不是這樣的。帶一個人去體驗一場真正的約會吧,提前預(yù)定餐廳,買好票,一起去看展。你會為那個人帶來獨特的感覺,因為大家都知道,準(zhǔn)備這些事情,需要時間,需要精力,需要你足夠在乎對方。
Number 10 - Try something new. One of the best ways to improve yourself is to try a new activity. It can be painting, photography, cooking or whatever. It doesn't really matter, as long as it's something new. Now while this sounds great, the problem is that most people want to do new things, but they never seem to get around to it. So, what can you do? I suggest looking online for classes in your area. Enroll yourself in one of those evening classes where you go once a week for a few hours. It will only cost a couple hundred dollars but you will feel committed so you will actually go. And who knows? Perhaps you will discover a talent you never knew you had! What do you think?
第十,嘗試新事物。提升自己的最佳方式就是嘗試新事物,它可以是畫畫,攝影,烹飪之類的。是什么不重要,重要的是,這是新事物。這聽起來挺棒的,但問題在于,其實多數(shù)人都想體驗新事物,但是他們?nèi)狈π袆恿ΑD敲?,你可以怎么做呢?我建議,你可以上網(wǎng)查一下,看看你所在的地區(qū)有沒有興趣班。給自己報一個興趣班,晚上去上課,每周去幾個小時。你只需要花上幾百美金而已,但是你會覺得自己下定決心要做這件事,所以你會去做。說不定,你可能會發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的新潛能。你覺得呢?