第十,記住,要多看看積極面,而不是消極面。無論你是個積極的人還是個消極的人,你的認知,你的情感,都是由你對世界的看法決定的。你應該經(jīng)常練習積極地應對事情,而不是消極被動地接受現(xiàn)實,雖然這很難,但你要學著去做。每件事都蘊藏著希望,盡自己最大的努力,找到事情的一線希望,這對你的生活會產生很重要的影響。
Number Eleven - Remember to surround yourself with positive influences. Everyone needs a strong support system in their life - that can be a source of positive influence. Learning to live a more purposeful life includes striving to surround yourself with brave, smart, and positive individuals - rather than those who get their fill from being negative toward others. Removing any negative energy from your life could prove to be extremely beneficial in your pursuit toward living a better life and finding happiness.
第十一,記住,要讓自己處在積極的環(huán)境中。在生活中,每個人都需要支持,這可能意味著積極的影響。學會讓自己的生活變得更有意義,這意味著要努力去接觸那些勇敢的,聰明的,積極的人,而不是那些通過打壓別人來獲得滿足感的人。把你生活中的所有消極因素都移走,這能幫助你追求更好的生活,幫助你獲得快樂。
Number Twelve - Remember that you can't force love. Yearning for that close relationship with somebody in life, will not make it happen any faster. Love happens when it wants to. People cannot learn to love you just because you desire for them to, and the same applies to you. Remember, love is an emotion that is meant to be felt, and not forced.
第十二,記住,愛不能強求??释H密關系,并不能讓我們更快地走進親密關系。愛的發(fā)生,是順其自然的。你想讓人們愛你,人們就學會愛你,這是不可能的,同理,你也不可能因為別人想要你愛他們,你就去學著愛他們。記住,愛要用心感受,而不是無理強求。
Number Thirteen - Remember that what you resist persists. It's not ideal to go through life trying to resist the things that you don't want. Situations, circumstances, events, people, ideas, and opinions - they all contribute to our growth. When it comes to some things in life, fighting against them will not make them go away – but will rather make them push against you with an even more powerful force. So, instead of focusing on what you don't want, or what you are against, learn to focus on what you do want - in your life.
第十三,記住,抗拒只會適得其反。在人生中,不斷嘗試去拒絕那些你不想要的事情,是不現(xiàn)實的。情況,條件,事情,人,想法,觀念,這些都能幫助我們成長。生活中,有些事是這樣的,你抗拒它們是無用的,這反而會讓事情變本加厲。所以,與其把注意力放在你不想要的事情上,或者放在你反對的事情上,還不如學會關注你想要的事情。
Number Fourteen - Remember that your thoughts create your reality. Your thoughts have incredible creative power and the ability to completely shape your life. The life you are living right now is the result of all the thoughts you have ever thought- up to this moment. Your level of self-esteem, your confidence, your self-worth, beliefs, morals, fears and insecurities - were determined by all the thoughts you have thought, and all the words you have said to yourself. If you cloud yourself with judgment and negativity, you will do nothing but shape a negative outline for the rest of your days to come. On the other hand, keeping a positive and empowering outlook, will prove to shape a very positive and joyful life. Your actions are the reflections of your thoughts and beliefs - whether they are positive or negative.
第十四,記住,想法決定現(xiàn)實。你的想法的力量很驚人,很強大,它能夠塑造你的生活。你現(xiàn)在的生活,就是你的想法的結果,包括從以前一直到現(xiàn)在的想法。你的自尊,你的自信,你的自我價值感,你的信念,你的道德觀,你的恐懼,你的不安,這些都是由你曾經(jīng)的想法決定的,都是由你對自己說過的話決定的。如果你總是評判自己,讓自己活在消極的心態(tài)里,那么你只會消極地度過余生。另一方面,如果能對未來保持積極向上的態(tài)度,這會讓你過上積極快樂的生活。你的行動,反應了你的想法和信念,積極的也好,消極的也罷。
Number Fifteen - Remember that sometimes you need to let go. It is normal to get attached to people or things, ideas, and places. But when it comes time to let go of them, we often have a very difficult time doing so. Recognizing when you need to gracefully let something go is important, and it's something you must do several times throughout your life. The natural flow of life will guide you, and let you know whether something is meant to stay, or go.
第十五,記住,有時候你需要放手。我們在乎很多人,很多事,很多想法,很多地方,這是很正常的。但是,一旦到了要放手的時候,我們很難做到。你要知道什么時候該瀟灑地放手,這很重要,在人生中你會遇到很多這樣的情況。生活會自然而然地引導你前進,生活會讓你知道,什么是注定要留下來的,什么是注定會離開的。
Number Sixteen - Remember that you will regret the things you didn't do. You might have heard older people say that they regret not doing more things when they were younger. Maybe they wanted to kiss that certain someone, quit that job, or skydive off that plane. You will come to learn that you often regret not trying things more than you regret trying things. It may be a job, a relationship, a move, or anything else - not doing what you may have even slightly wanted to do at one point in your life will come back to bite you – as you will be more consumed with the what-ifs of not doing it; than with the regrets of having done it and perhaps having failed at it.
第十六,記住,你會因為沒有做的事情而后悔??赡苣阍?jīng)聽比你年長的人說過,他們后悔在自己年輕時沒有做更多的事。也許,他們想吻一個人,想辭掉一份工作,想從飛機上跳傘。以后你會明白,比起已經(jīng)做了的事,那些沒能做到的事更令你后悔??赡苣菚r一份工作,一段感情,一個行動,或者任何其他事。就算你曾有那么一絲想做某件事情的念頭,如果你沒能做到它,你就會一直惦記著這件事,因為你總會思考,沒做到這件事會帶來什么后果。如果你雖然做了卻失敗了,你倒不會那么在意。
Number Seventeen - Remember that life is best taken ones step at a time. Although you may get caught up in trying to figure out how you will prepare for the next five or ten years, it is crucial to focus on what's happening in your life – right now. Looking too far ahead into the future can prove to be extremely overwhelming and tiring. You are not expected to fully prepare for your future - most of the time you won't even know what's to come a couple of years from now. Always remember to take in the different situations and events in your life right now, and do the best that you can in this present moment.
第十七,記住,一步一個腳印,生活才會更美好。雖然,當你為未來五年或者十年做規(guī)劃的時候,你會感到很苦惱,但是你必須專注于當下的事情,沒錯,就是此時此刻的事。太過提前做規(guī)劃,是一件很累人的事情。沒有人期望你要為將來做好百分百的準備,很多時候你甚至不知道接下來的幾年會發(fā)生什么。要一直記住,當下生活中的不同情況,不同事情,你都要好好感受,認真處理,用你的最佳狀態(tài)對待當下的事情。
Number Eighteen - Remember to never lose hope. Sometimes, life will attempt to push you in many different directions. Avoiding these paths or worrying about how they may turn out, will likely just make you feel overwhelmed or defeated. Your strength is not determined by all of the hardships in your life - but rather how you allow these hardships to form you as a human being and influence who you become. No matter what you may be dealing with right now, there is always a way to overcome it, and you must never forget that. For as long as you breathe, there is constant room to grow, change, and hope. You alone are responsible for how your life will turn out. So always keep your head up and believe in yourself. While it is normal to sometimes lose sight of what's most important, remembering these small things will not only help you get through the tough times, but it will also help you take charge of your life.
第十八,記住,要常懷希望。有時候,生活會在很多方面給你很大壓力??傁胫颖苁虑?,或者總是擔心事情的結果如何,會讓你感到很累,很挫敗。生活中有很多困難,它們并不能定義你的能力。事實上,你如何應對這些困難,如何讓他們塑造你、影響你,這才會體現(xiàn)你的能力。無論你現(xiàn)在正在經(jīng)歷什么,總有辦法解決當下的困難,你必須記住這一點。只要你還活著,你就有機會去成長,去改變,去心懷希望。只有你能夠為你的人生負責。所以,抬起頭來,相信自己。雖然,有時候我們會感到迷茫,不知道什么才是最重要的事,但是我們要記住這些小小的道理,因為它們不僅能幫我們渡過難關,還能幫我們把握好我們的生活。