美國(guó)文化脫口秀 第394期:英語(yǔ)social如何聊出質(zhì)量?

和外國(guó)人聊三句就沒(méi)話題?談資老套、聊不出質(zhì)量?聽(tīng)Jenny和Spencer分享英語(yǔ)聊天實(shí)用建議;學(xué)自然、有質(zhì)量的英語(yǔ)交流方法!

關(guān)鍵詞：

Run out of topics?

沒(méi)話題、很尷尬?

Do you run out of things to talk about or always talk about superficial topics?

你是否聊著聊著沒(méi)話題或者只能聊些很淺的內(nèi)容?

英語(yǔ)聊天，主要靠：

Daily learning (日常累積)：英語(yǔ)+文化

Practical approach (實(shí)際步驟)：選擇切入點(diǎn)+適當(dāng)擴(kuò)展

How do you strike up conversations naturally with people whom you just met? 如何跟剛認(rèn)識(shí)的人自然地開(kāi)啟話題?

*Spencer對(duì)中文“搭訕”的理解有誤*：

strike up a conversation: 開(kāi)始聊天，通用詞

hookup: 搭訕

Keep it natural

中國(guó)人、外國(guó)人都是人

放下壓力，松弛自然地交流

Don't memorize fixed things to say to people: 不要像背稿子一樣死記硬背

That's one of the reasons your conversations are very stale and limited. 那樣的話，你聊的內(nèi)容總是很老套、很局限

Learn a useful train of thought or flow of logic: 掌握一些實(shí)用的談話邏輯

Jenny, Spencer先示范一下：

Assume we are at a social networking event and we don't know each other: 假設(shè)我們?cè)谝粋€(gè)社交場(chǎng)合，不認(rèn)識(shí)彼此

Let's improv: 我們現(xiàn)場(chǎng)即興演示一下

自然的英語(yǔ)自我介紹方法

J: Hi, I'm Jenny. Nice to meet you!

S: Hey, how's it going? My name is Spencer. Where are you from?

J: I'm from Shanghai. What about you?

S: I come from the States, come from D.C. But I bounced around a bit over the past few years, so it's kind of hard to tell where I'm really from at this point.

J: I've been to the States almost ten times. But I've never been to DC, and I've always wanted to go.

S: You should check it out sometime. We've got a lot of cool stuff there. A lot of free museums are really fun to go to.

J: But I guess it's a bit crazy this time of the year, given all the election talks.

S: It's not as crazy as you may think it is. But if that guy, Trump, gets into the office, then all bets are off.

總結(jié)：

初次見(jiàn)面，聊天很簡(jiǎn)單，從自己談起!

Talk about yourself: who you're, where you're from;

但是別兩句話結(jié)束, 多擴(kuò)展一些.

Build on the conversation.

“What's your name?”

聽(tīng)起來(lái)像小學(xué)生

怎么問(wèn)?

Introduce your name first.

And say"And you are?"

例如:

Hi, I'm Jenny, and you are?

其實(shí)對(duì)方在聽(tīng)了你的名字后，基本上會(huì)自然地告訴你他/她的名字。

擴(kuò)展：談場(chǎng)景、談場(chǎng)合

Talk about the event, the immediate surroundings

Spencer's tip: I usually say something that has to do with the event.

Example: Someone just gave the speech. I might turn to somebody and say, "Hey, is it just me or did that speech make you wanna go to sleep, too?" 如果有人剛做了個(gè)演講。我可能就會(huì)對(duì)某人說(shuō)：“嘿，是只有我一個(gè)人覺(jué)得困還是剛才那個(gè)演講讓你也犯困?”

It's just a way to open up the conversation. I can just be joking. I like to start off with some sort of joke. 這就是一種開(kāi)場(chǎng)的方式。我喜歡講笑話。我喜歡用玩笑來(lái)開(kāi)始對(duì)話。

If you don't have Spencer's sense of humor, just say: That was a great speech. 如果你沒(méi)有Spencer的幽默，那么就說(shuō)：那個(gè)演講真不錯(cuò)!

Then the conversation naturally flows from there. 然后對(duì)話就自然發(fā)展下去啦。

如何談工作?

除了"What's your job?"，還有更多問(wèn)法：

如果你已經(jīng)知道對(duì)方工作的行業(yè)(industry specific)，可以這么問(wèn)：

What company are you with?

如果你什么都不知道，那么可以這么問(wèn)：

What do you do for a living?

What kind of work do you do?

接著這些問(wèn)題，可以繼續(xù)問(wèn)下去：

How long have been working at this company/in this industry?

How long have you been in that line of work?

How long have you been working in (industry)?

How long have you been working in marketing?

When did you start your own company?

Have you always been in education?

Tailor your questions to what they do: 按照對(duì)方的行業(yè)進(jìn)行擴(kuò)展

"Where are you from?"

每個(gè)地方都有豐富的故事

Tie your conversation to the place he/she comes from.

Spencer's tip: People like to know that you're knowledgeable of where they come from. 人們喜歡你知道一些他家鄉(xiāng)的事。

I can meet someone from practically any corner of the world. 我會(huì)遇到從世界各地來(lái)的人。

Some little tidbit or some little piece of information I can throw out at them. They will feel: Wow, you know where I'm from! 我說(shuō)一點(diǎn)跟他們家鄉(xiāng)有意思的小事情，他們都會(huì)覺(jué)得：哇，你知道那里!

It will lead to very interesting and meaningful exchange. 這會(huì)讓對(duì)話變得有意思，而且有意義。

英語(yǔ)social如何聊出質(zhì)量?

累積美國(guó)文化知識(shí)，絕對(duì)用得到!

If you've been to where they're from or know something about the place, talk about that: 如果你去過(guò)那里，或者知道那里的特色，就可以談?wù)?/p>

即使你沒(méi)去過(guò)，也有很多可以說(shuō)!

What is (where they're from) like? 你的家鄉(xiāng)是怎么樣的呀?

I've always wanted to go there but I haven't had the chance. Tell me more about it. 我總想去那兒，但一直沒(méi)機(jī)會(huì)。你給我講講吧

In return, talk about your city. 反過(guò)來(lái)，你也可以講講你的城市

怎么自然地結(jié)束談話?

Wrap up a conversation gracefully

Another role play 再來(lái)演一下

S: It's been a real pleasure meeting you today. I hope to encounter you at another one of these events.

J: Likewise. Do you use WeChat?

S: That, I do. But I'm usually out of China. So when I'm out, I usually use WhatsApp. Do you have WhatsApp? I know we're a little behind with the WhatsApp. It's easier to contact me on there.

J: No, you have to get on WeChat, especially if you travel to China. It's great. In any case, I'm on LinkedIn, or we can exchange email.

S: Cool, why don't we just exchange email and maybe I'll get on that WeChat thing a bit in the future.

J: OK, sure. It's a pleasure meeting you and enjoy the rest of the evening.

S: Enjoy your stay here in Beijing.

結(jié)束談話，用下面三個(gè)步驟：

1.釋放結(jié)束信號(hào)(Signal)

It's been really nice meeting you.

It's been a pleasure meeting you.

It's been very nice talking to you.

2.交換聯(lián)絡(luò)方式 (exchange contact information)

Let's keep in touch.

Are you on WeChat?

Do you have a card?

3.最后說(shuō) (Enjoy...)

Enjoy the rest of ________.

Enjoy the rest of the/your day.

Enjoy the rest of the/your stay.

Enjoy the rest of the/your evening.

有質(zhì)量的英語(yǔ)交流，一定要靠平時(shí)累積：

You need to build up your English skills and culture understanding.累積英語(yǔ)能力和文化認(rèn)知

We should be bilingual and bicultural. 不僅有雙語(yǔ)能力，還有跨文化的理解